OT: but need help with cooking something

It's not just a Southern thing. My family has always been in Minnesota (rural MN, definitely not Southern), but my dad always had to have gravy with his potatoes, so Mom made gravy no matter what kind of meat she fixed. She sometimes saved leftover gravy so he'd have gravy for his potatoes if the meat for the meal was something like weiners. I've never been a gravy person myself; I much prefer butter and/or sour cream on my potatoes.

Julia >> You are Southern, aren't you? All us Southerners gotta have gravy >> with the chicken.

My MIL is 90 and in amazing shape. She looks a good 60 and has had no major health problems. She lives with her oldest daughter (SIL is a retired nurse).

She became convinced a couple of weeks ago that SIL was trying to poison her. She's been trying to "escape" ever since. Got extremely abusive to SIL and called the police on Friday.

She's now on the Senior Diagnostic ward at the local hospital and the staff has determined that she is a danger to herself and others. SIL is looking for a secure nursing home.

SIL says it's been coming on for several months. She has made a couple of strange comments during her phone calls to us lately.

Here is the point to my story: She has always taken very good care of herself. Eats healthy, exercises. And for what? Now she will have to live for goodness knows how long in this hell in her mind. The doctor says her heart is excellent.

I'm going to have me a couple egg mcmuffins.

Cindy

Wow! You had leftover gravy? LOL Cindy

I'm so sorry to hear about your mil Cindy but 90 years of a good life is pretty amazing. Eating egg mcmuffins won't kill you quick most probably, just maybe mess you up enough that you have a rotten quality of life for too long. I would suggest if you want to kill yourself with food you go for really good food not yucky old McDonald's anyway. Hugs to you and the family. I know dealing with oldsters is tough stuff. Taria

teleflora wrote:

Howdy!

She's always taken care of herself and for what? For celebrating her 90th birthday, for one thing!

As this huge bunch of Baby Boomers grows older we're going to see this situation over & over again, more than ever before, taking care of elderly parents, hoping someone takes care of elderly us.

Ragmop/Sandy-- aiming for 100 yrs. ;-)

The good die young? Just teasing but I better duck and run.... Taria

Sandy Ellis> Ragmop/Sandy-- aiming for 100 yrs. ;-)

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Hugs to you and Cindy. My mom had AD. Sooo painful to deal with. From heart-wrenching to more-heart-wrenching.

--Heidi

Plattsburgh (UPstate) NY

Jacquel> Pork chops, pork shoulder and beef roasts are about the only time we

My poor sister in law. I can't imagine how she has dealt with this for the last month or so. Doctor says she can't go home. Sister in law's health not great right.

Regular nursing home won't cut it. I think if it was me, I would want to be heavily sedated. Better to live in a world of pretty colors than to live in a world where people I love are trying to poison me.

Just so sad. MIL has had a great life the last few years. She was married to a man who, while not technically abusive, certainly liked things his own way. After he dies, she literally bloomed.

She taught me to sew, I taught her to quilt. She took to the internet like a duck to water once she figured out she could shop.

I'll miss her when she's gone. Hell, I miss her now. That's not my Noni.

Cindy

Cindy,

It saddens me to read such things as this because I know it could happen to me, speaking of my father, but then on the other hand it could also happen to me in real life as in me as a person. We just don't know what age is going to do for us. My father also has an excellent heart, I think if he could get over the depression from my mother's death he would be much better off. Doctor won't give him more anti-depressive med's because he says he is afraid it will cause him to fall.

Good luck with the tough road ahead and yes I will pray for you,

Jacquel>My MIL is 90 and in amazing shape. She looks a good 60 and has had no major