OT: Mom's gone

Sunny, I am so, so sorry for your loss. Sending you bunches of cyber hugs.

Leslie

(((((Sunny)))))

Glad that the 'bad' part didn't last long for her or for your family.

Dee in Oz

My condolences. ((((((Sunny))))))

Has the weather locked you in, or will you be able to go to her funeral? Being able to to put her to rest formally is a great part of the grieving process.

so sorry, Sunny,

thinking of you

Anne

My condolences, Sunny. This is a really difficult bump in life's road. Whatever turned out with one's mother, they are always special. . In message , Sunny writes

Kate, there will be no funeral. My sisters both said long ago that they would not support or attend any kind of service. Mom's husband died several years ago, all of her siblings are gone and many of my first cousins are also dead. So little family on either side, and really she had not lived in any particular community for many years. She took care of her own arrangements several years ago and decided over the summer that her ashes would be sent to a life-long friend who lives in Albuquerque. The situation is really awkward. My sons and my husband and I will do something to commemorate her life, but I have no idea what form it will take. It will be informal and will involve only the four of us. I have to confess, my overwhelming feeling is of loneliness -- I really wish there was someone to mourn with me for her loss. I know how selfish that sounds, but it's a true feeling. So I'm writing her obituary -- one the straightforward details and one a bit more descriptive. I will contact the newspapers of the places where she lived and where people might remember her name. Mom had the good fortune of maintaining a life long friendship with a woman who was her next-door neighbor from the age of 3. They moved all over the world, had various husbands and various children and adventures, but they have stayed true friends. Marcelle has brain cancer and was supposed to be dead last year sometime, but she has called my Mom every night for the past 12 years at least without fail. I suspect it is proof that our friends are are truest family. Our family life has been complicated. You really don't want to know details or to understand beyond just believing that my sisters are both bitter and hold great anger toward our mother, and they have plenty of reason for those feelings. She was a difficult woman but she made us who we are. And once again, proof that we reap what we sow.

Go kiss your kids and spouses and dogs and cats and anybody else you can reach.

love and hugs and thank you for the kindness and the gentle words, Sunny

Whatever you decide to do will help to give you closeure on a difficult area of your life. This is a time to acknowlede the hard areas and give thanks for the good things and the strength she gave you.

You can be sure that your mother's friend mourns with you, even though she is far away. Talk to her and share some memories... It's interesting to see a different perspective sometimes, and to learn the whys and wherefores of things you couldn't understand at the time.

God looked down into his garden, saw your Mother was weary, gently took her hand and led her to heaven. Be a Peace Sunny, know that your Mother loved you dearly.

((((((((Su7nny)))))))))) Sending "good stuff" & kitty kisses your way. CiaoMeow >^;;^<

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We mourn with you, Sunny. Whether our mothers were picture-perfect straight out of Mayberry, RFD or holy terrors, being motherless is a heavy burden. May God cover you with the feathers of His wings; and know that we share your grief. Ponder on something you can do to commemorate her life. Perhaps a hug of some sort to her friend, a contribution to some endeavor that was meaningful to her? You'll think of something . . . and we'll be holding you close in our hearts. Polly

{{{{{{{{Sunny}}}}}}}}

I'm sorry to hear your mom is gone, but am happy she didn't linger in pain for a long time. I know you'll find the perfect way for your family to commemorate her life, and my thoughts will be with you as you work through the grieving process.

Sunny, I am very sorry for your loss. I'm sending big comforting hugs your way. Take care of yourself my friend. Launie, in Oregon

Yeah, what Polly said.

We all hold you close in thought and heart and prayer.

When my mom passed in '96, my dad had a tree planted at a grade school near where they lived, with a little plaque. And people donated to the library in the town where we grew up. It needn't even be that elaborate. Perhaps there was something in your mom's life that she liked to do or be around, and you can foster that.

Be gentle on yourself, and your family.

We're here for you.

G> She died around 8 p.m. Pacific Standard Time tonight. At least the

((((((((((((((((Sunny))))))))))))))))))))))) May I send my sympathies also. Warm thoughts are with you & yours. Whatever you do as a tribute will be wonderful.

Nana

We all hold you close in thought and heart and prayer.

When my mom passed in '96, my dad had a tree planted at a grade school near where they lived, with a little plaque. And people donated to the library in the town where we grew up. It needn't even be that elaborate. Perhaps there was something in your mom's life that she liked to do or be around, and you can foster that.

Be gentle on yourself, and your family.

We're here for you.

G> She died around 8 p.m. Pacific Standard Time tonight. At least the

My sympathies are with you and yours.

Oh Sunny, I am so sorry. Mom's, good or bad are a really important part of our lives. Every one of them loves to the ability they can. Our hearts go out to you. Hugs, Taria

I'm sorry for your loss Sunny. It's hard to lose a parent. Warm hugs to all. KJ

Oh Sunny!

My warmest thoughts and cyber hugs are with you!

Claudia

So sorry, Sunny.

Pati, in Phx