OT: prayers for DS

Prayers and good thoughts on the way for your little guy, Larisa!!

Prayers and good thoughts that the new meds are 'just the ticket.' Hope some of his worries fall by the wayside....that wee one of yours is a very deep thinker, for sure!

-Irene

goodness, Larisa. i hope whatever ya try helps T. where do the youngsters of today come up with these ideas? who even thinks of going to college at 6yo, for goodness sake. cheers, jeanne

LOL, that's putting it mildly. He gets extremely philosophical at times, and not when Dad is around to help me try to answer him!! I try my best, but there are times when I tell him to just put it aside until he and Daddy and i can sit down and talk about it - some of his questions are from so far out in left field that I get completely locked up and can't think of anything at all to say (which you KNOW is unusual for me..lol).

Thanks Irene

Larisa

IMS wrote:

Poor little scrap - certainly far too early to be worrying about leaving home! Give him a long hug from us and tell him he can stay as long as he wants!

Suzie B

Is he in kindergarden? Does his class have a "graduation" at the end of the school year? Maybe he's heard that you go to college after you graduate and he doesn't realize it means high school not kindergarden?

As I also have an adult son with ADD, I really understand what you are going through. Healing thoughts are heading towards your son and family

Prayers heading your way.

ADHD is a tough nut. Meds are part of the solution sometimes, but you might run into some resistance as he gets older. Just hang in there and grin and bear it.

As to the worrying, you might want to keep track on that, and see if all this changes with the new meds. I know nothing of Daytrana, but some of the meds my son used to take changed dopamine levels, and that can cause mood changes as well.

I am firmly convinced that medicine is an art.

As to the education system, when the ridiculousness gets you down remember that some of the biggest brightest entrepreneurs have ADHD. And the idiocy and misguided attempts to make their square pegs fit into round holes, is one reason why they start their own businesses. Whenever the school tries to take the focus off how they can help my son succeed, and change it to trying to prepare him for 'real world' employment, I tell them their job is just to educate him. In the 'real world' he will own the company.

My nephew who doesn't have ADHD quit eating at about that age. They finally discovered that he had been worried about dieing after attending a funeral. They told him only big people die....and he didn't want to get big. Hope your DS's meds kick in and turn out to be just what he needs. Please know that there's a huge group of quilters praying and sending healing vibes his way.

Ah, this brings back memories!! When my daughters were very young (like your DS) we mentioned that when they were older they would be moving out, getting their own apartment, etc etc, thinking that they would consider it as an adventure. But they were very upset at the idea ...until we reassured them that they could stay as long as they liked and that they only would move out when THEY wanted to. Of course, now that they are much older their attitude has changed completely LOL!! Good luck with your son. Allison

Well it would help if I could comprehend what I read. geeezzzzz! He's in 1st grade but the question still is valid. Did he or will he "graduate"?

(((((Hugs))))), prayers and positive vibes are on their way for your son. ME-Judy

His behavior today was no better than any other day, but I figured he'd have a little adjusting to do with the new med delivery system...might not be the right strength for him and whatnot.

Tomorrow, I will be taking DD to church to walk with my friend and play with her daughter, getting my allergy shots, then heading over to the school to "watch" for a litle while to see what exactly DS is doing in school and how he is responding to the teacher and other children. I'm going to try to talk to his resource teacher as well and, if God is with me on this, the principal and vice principal as well. If not, I will try to set up times to talk with them.

Meanwhile, DD will be with somebody I trust to watch her and will be playing with a friend of hers. Hopefully I will be able to catch some of the triggers that set DS off and come up with some viable solutions. Right now, he is so disruptive that we fear he may be removed from the class, if not the school. I vaguely remember being moved from the school where I attended first and second grade into another school district for 3rd grade (only to move out of state half-way through) because of the lack of treatment, encouragement I was receiving as well as my classroom behavior. That may be the way we have to go...that or homeschool, or private school...who knows at this point.

DS knows that we will not kick him out of the house, so I'm not sure where this idea came from. He knows that, while I was in school, I lived at home for part of the time, and had my own apartment part of the time. We have gone over this with him - both last night and again today, so hopefully that has reassured him that we would never force him out on his own until he was ready (now, if he stays here indefinitely, he WILL be paying rent and contributing to household bills, but we haven't told him that yet....only seems fair if we have an adult child living with us....was the same thing i had to do when I lived at home during and after college).

Anyway, thank you all for your thoughts and prayers. I will probably be talking with my counselor about this instead of what she wanted me to talk about...have to get guidance here and worry about other things later.

Larisa, off to cyber hunt for some information after an hour conference call with financial advisor....joy oh joy

Stimulant meds made my son worse, as he has tics, so they switched him to a new non stimulant medicine called Straera. it was a night and day difference in behavior for him. He has friends now, and the school stopped phoning me. He got a 4 in behavior (the highest) as opposed to his normal 1 on his report card he brought home on friday. His teacher also phoned home once to tell me what a wonderful helpful student he was. I almost died. Figured they must have had the wrong number lol. Anyhow, not to promote that medicine, but just to give encouragement, that when you do find the right medicine, it will be amazing. My son is at the top of his class acedemically now as well. My son's psychiatrist told me that adhd kids are amoung the brightest, which is a part of their problem. My son also worries about things that wouldnt matter to most people, and I think it is because he is bright and able to think ahead of other people his age :) Anyhow, I must run, but be encouraged, you will find the right med.

Carissa

At six James wanted to go to college and stay at home while he did so. He was worried that he'd HAVE to go away. No probs, I said: if there's a course locally at the time you want to do it, stay at home. Now he's

Just tell him what I told James, and time will take care of it for you!

Prayers for his smooth adjustment to the new meds going up as I type!

Oh, I dunno... Big Sis was dead set on going to uni to read History from the age of six or seven. She did it too - and got her BA before her 21st birthday some 32 years ago! :D

Here in the UK we only graduate if we get a degree awarded by a university or college with university status. Age isn't an issue.

I am wondering how long these messages will follow us. Do these kids really want all this medical info with personal references attached to them? I can tell you there are times when some of this info being public is not going to be appreciated and might even be detrimental. Is there any way to do it in a more generic fashion? It really is none of my business but you might want to think about it. I honestly don't know how far reaching info here gets but it is worth thinking about.

I do wish you guys luck with your kiddos. It is tough enough to deal with regular family and school stuff so I really feel for you all with the extra worries and decisi> Stimulant meds made my son worse, as he has tics, so they switched him to a