tina, I know exactly where you're coming from. You've had so much to deal with, your own health gets left till last. As I said to my doctor last week (after putting off a visit for at least 12 months) - I just can't juggle any more balls! I had to get some other issues out of the way before I could even contemplate what looks like surgery for me. I hope that what you're dreading for yourself is not so serious and that your dad comes through ok. He sounds like a fighter. And so do you :-)
My thoughts are with you both
chris :-)