I've made a lot of assumptions over the past few months about my Mom's situation in Arizona. She's in a small group home with several other ladies, all cared for by the hospice system. I've talked to her, trying to be upbeat and cheerful.
Well, now it comes out. My sister packed all my mom's stuff away when she first moved into hospice. My mom is in a room with a hospital bed, a small chest and a bedside table. No television, no computer (I thought she no longer emailed me because she was too weak) and no comfortable recliner. My sister told her none of it can come out of storage. She's told me the same thing, saying "something big and heavy has fallen in front of the door to the storage space and we can't get in any more." My son offered to go help sort out Mom's stuff and provide muscle months ago and my sister just had a fit saying it was none of his business.
Ok, at this juncture I haven't spoken to or heard from either sister in months. My younger sister hasn't taken a phone call or returned an email since last September. My older sister hasn't talked to or seen my mom in months and I can't get down there. I just finished paying off the credit card bill I ran up when we were there in August last year. Rental car, food, plane fare, etc. I was sick for a long time after we came back. The heat and travel in general are very, very hard for me. I know, what a pansy -- can't handle doing what I ought to do.
My mom has caused a lot of pain and grief in her life for many people. They had to take the phone out of her room a few months ago because she called the police and tried to get a nurse she didn't like arrested. Claimed the woman stole something from her. (no, mom doesn't have dementia. She's just ..... who she's always been) But nobody deserves to be left to die in such deliberately diminished circumstances.
So I'm asking for prayers. For her.
Thanks, Sunny And I apologize for the ongoing soap opera of my life. I suspect you're all sick and tired of hearing about it.