HI.
A long time ago, what feels like a lifetime, I dated someone before Larry that was in his own right, very special. We had a horrific breakup (mostly on his part and immaturity and naitivity on my) in
1995.A few of you are included in my facebook page and knows that I posted a question "can one be friend's with one's ex if enough time has passed." Ken, that is his name, IM me one night to "apologize" and we were on the computer for 3 1/2 hours talking and healing. I told Larry the next morning, after he asked what the heck time did I get to bed, what happened. I told him everything, within reason, and he hasn't been happy since.
I've got a two fold problem that I need help thrashing out.
Larry and I have been planning to go to Washington DC for over a year and will be going down for a short weekend in May. I mentioned that to Ken as just as a conversation redirector (we were getting into an area of the conversation I wanted to avoid) and he wants to be our tour guide. I said no because it is the first vacation Larry and I have had in nearly two years and Larry doesn't want to meet him. Unfortunately I want to see Ken just to show him how truly happy I am and to show Larry Ken is harmless now. (Up until last week, I didn't know where Ken lived with his wife and two kids. He lives in Germantown MD.)
Ken wants to be our tour guide. Larry doesn't want anything to do with him. In fact it has caused a couple of verbal tussles between us. I asked Larry if we could do just a dinner with his family. I got the silent treatment. I spent the night, last night, thinking. See Larry has a friend Annette that I do not like at all but I do not prevent him from hanging out with. Although there is a painful past with Ken, and we are working it out, do you guys think Larry will be as acceptable of my friendship with Ken as I have been with his friendship with Annette.
I need some help ladies. I am tired of crying and being frustrated. Please help me to see this clearly.
I love you guys and respect your input.
Love Kate