Barb,
You don't know me and I just saw this post today, but I wanted to give you an idea still if there is time for you to implement it.
I saw this done at a funeral for a dear member of our community and it touched me so deeply. They had a table with his photos on it and a tray with pretty linen stationary in it and a box of small pencils. As you came in to the funeral, people were encouraged to take a piece of paper and a pencil and write down their thoughts, memories, and wishes for his family. Then the papers were deposited back in another tray on the way out and someone took all those messages and compiled a beautiful book for his family to keep...especially his young children.
Funerals are a time when friends and family gather together and speak of memories and fun times as well as sad and it's such a priceless opportunity to capture those things to keep forever. Those special moments are what help us "keep them alive' in our hearts and the books made with these sentiments are tangible and holdable etc. I use this idea in my workshops and people are always happy to hear it but sad that they didn't know about it until now. I know that when my parents passed away, I would have given anything for someone to tell me this or help me put one together.
I hope her family and friends find comfort.
LeAnn