There have been a few friends who have responded here in the newsgroup as well as privately to me about my message that I posted very early this morning before I finally went to bed and passed out from sheer exhaustion. Just wanted all of you to know that my addressing the comments raised by the troll was more for your benefit than hers. I know that all of you care about me and believe and trust in me that I would never do anything like I have been often accused of doing, but I just wanted to reassure you that nothing has changed about who I am... and never will.
Yes, Cher, Matthew's girlfriend has had a lot to deal with in her own family and that is very likely the reason she so quickly turns to other people outside her family. Unfortunately a couple of the older (parentlike aged) people who have put on a "I'm your friend, you can trust me" face for her, actually turned around and stabbed her in the back by running back to her parents with information that she had freely given them while trusting that they were her friends. Matthew knows a couple of these people... they work at the same place, and when our (his and mine) relationship was strained back in the Fall, they zoomed in on him too with how they were his friends and that he could trust them. They stabbed him in the back too, by running to his girlfriend's parents with information that he didn't want them to know and caused all sorts of trouble.
I don't dig for information from Matthew's girlfriend... I respond when she asks my opinion about something. Often it isn't what she (or Matthew) was hoping my response would be, but they both know that I shoot from the hip and give my honest opinion and don't sugarcoat things to make anyone else happy. I say things the way I see them. It doesn't make a lot of friends that I am honest and opinionated, but that's who I am... I speak the truth and if that isn't what you want to hear, then don't ask my opinion. I will on rare occasions twist my words a little if it will keep someone (especially someone I don't know well enough to know if they can handle the brutal truth) from getting hurt feelings... like if I am asked "Do you like my new dress? and it is some God-awful mixture of horrid colours, I will say something like "It's VERY colourful and bright!" rather than say "That is butt ugly!" For the most part though... especially if it is something very important to the person asking... they get what they asked for, my honest opinion whether it's the answer they were hoping for or not.
Well, even though my arms are really hurting me today, I have to get some laundry done this morning and hang them out. It is gorgeous here, with bright clear blue skies and the air feels nice too. I can rest my arms later... my Mom used to say "The better the day, the better the deed." so I want to take advantage of the nice weather in case it's raining tomorrow.
*hugs* Gemini