WHO CARES WHAT THEY THINK??????
Yes, I *am* shouting.
Every morning when you get up, I want you to repeat the following until it starts to sink in:
"I am special, beautiful and unique. There is no one else like me. I am loving and worthy of love. I am me."
Don't make me come out there.....
Linda2
vj found this in rec.crafts.beads, from "Linda2" :
]WHO CARES WHAT THEY THINK??????
that's a hard one to get past.
]Every morning when you get up, I want you to repeat the following until it ]starts to sink in: ]"I am special, beautiful and unique. There is no one else like me. I am ]loving and worthy of love. I am me."
i promise to try.
]Don't make me come out there.....
**chuckle**----------- @vicki [SnuggleWench] (Books)
On Wed, 7 Apr 2004 20:02:50 -0400, Linda2 wrote (in message ):
What she said. She can shout for me, since I can't breathe enough to get a lot of volume.
You know what? No matter how hard you try, and how much you give away little pieces of yourself to please another, there are some people who will never be satisfied. Eventually, there will be nothing left of _YOU_, and those people will still be picking away, just in case there's a bit bit of self left in the shell that has your name on it.
Although I wish it weren't so, there are some people who have so little going for them that they try to take the soul, energy, joy and life from any available vulnerable person. Even worse, there seems to be an endless supply of these creeps. If you are 99% self confident and don't watch out, some person who purports to love you, will have that self-confidence level down to zero in no time, and (s)he'll try to make you feel bad that you're an empty shell of the person you once were.
I'm not shouting, because I can't, but the intent is there. Come closer so you don't miss a word that we're saying.
Second verse, same tune as the first: "I could spend my day listing the names of all the people that love and care about me. If I needed help, these people would come to my rescue, just because I am me. I wouldn't need to beg, or be made to feel guilty for having needs, I'd just get the love and support I need, even if the problem was originally my fault. People who love me laugh when I laugh, and cry when I cry, but just for a minute, and then they bring me tea and a warm hug."
Third Verse, much more doleful and grim: "I could spend my time with people who say that they love me, but are constantly telling me to do things that I don't want to do, to "prove" that I love them in return, or to change me into a "more lovable" form. Do they really love me, if they aren't there when I want to dance in the rain, or sit by the window and add my tears to those from the sky? Why does their love always involve my giving them some piece of myself, and never my getting some strength and joy?
I won't write the last verse, because it's your life to live, and your story to write. I really want you to live some incredibly beautiful stories that go one forever and ever, and for your joy to be so powerful that you can give your excess to other people that need it.
Pissing off the "Beady Ladies" is a really bad idea.
Kathy N-V
vj found this in rec.crafts.beads, from Kathy N-V :
]I won't write the last verse, because it's your life to live, and your story ]to write. I really want you to live some incredibly beautiful stories that ]go one forever and ever, and for your joy to be so powerful that you can give ]your excess to other people that need it.
thank you, so much, Kathy! i'm working on it. it's an uphill battle, but i am working on it.
----------- @vicki [SnuggleWench] (Books)
On Wed, 7 Apr 2004 20:06:47 -0400, vj wrote (in message ):
Just think, "WWKN-VS?"
And you know, in your heart of hearts, that KN-V would say, "I don't care what you think about me. I am a good person and I like who I am. What you see is what there is, and frankly, you're not good enough to be with me. How about you get a life, and if you're successful, come back."
This can be summed up in a very short phrase: "F*ck 'em, they aren't worth the air they breathe."
Should we set up telephone reminder calls? Remind VJ that she's a valuable and greatly loved person. Remind VJ that anyone who thinks differently is wrong, because it's a proven fact that VJ is a worthy and terrific person.
Although I'd love to go kick some soul-sucking butt, the fact is, only you can make the bad people go away. Shock them out of their complacency. Do things that are good for you alone. If they tell you that you're being selfish, make them prove it - how did they personally suffer by not having you to kick around? I am dubious of claims that a certain person is designated as "the bad one," and that person needs to be available at all times to take a couple of whacks to their soul.
All this applies doubly to the bad voices in your head - they're often the most persistent and the ones that hurt the most; after all, you put them there. Before listening to some inside hurt, think about all the evidence to the contrary. Then do something nice for yourself - a bath, a trashy novel, one perfect chocolate truffle, let yourself stand on the porch and watch a strong thunderstorm (look for the rainbow once it's over!)
You _Really_ don't want Linda out there. She's just the advance woman for the rest of us.
Love,
Kathy N-V
vj found this in rec.crafts.beads, from Kathy N-V :
]Just think, "WWKN-VS?"
locked in for myself, Kathy.
[bear with me - unable to reply right now]----------- @vicki [SnuggleWench] (Books)
I am... ahem... weaselpanties on AIM. Tiki on MSN.
-Kalera
I've gone through that too. After my second marriage, I went through a complete review of how I approach my life and other people, and while I still frequently get accused of being "nice", I can now say with complete confidence that I am NOT nice. I may be gentle, but I am definitely not nice. Not the way I think of "nice", which to *me* means "sacrificing my honesty and integrity in order to please others".
I would rather be reliable, respected, and trusted than "nice". And it
*is* possible to tell people things they don't want to hear, and take care of yourself, without being a b*tch. Not that there's anything wrong with being one, either! ;) I used to have a horrible fear of confronting people. It was so bad that if I had to say something I knew someone didn't want to hear, I would go completely cold and start shaking. I'd have a stomachache that lasted for days. Now, I can just tell them. Without judgement, without guilt, without apology. It has completely changed my life.-Kalera
ROTFL I want a WWKN-VD button! Can you imagine the looks from people trying to figure it out? Especially if I could explain it to them completely deadpan. "Oh, yes, sometimes I just need a reminder to ask myself "What would Kathy Nicklas-Varraso do?". I try to live my life by that tenet".
-Kalera
vj found this in rec.crafts.beads, from Kalera Stratton :
]ROTFL I want a WWKN-VD button!
DEFINITELY!
----------- @vicki [SnuggleWench] (Books)
vj found this in rec.crafts.beads, from Kalera Stratton :
]I am... ahem... weaselpanties on AIM.
[sitting on hands]----------- @vicki [SnuggleWench] (Books)
some things are more interesting to know than other things. This would be one of those. LOL
Becki "In between the moon and you, the angels have a better view of the crumbling difference between wrong and right." -- Counting Crows
some things are more interesting to know than other things. This would be one of those. LOL>>
aint that the truth!!! LOL Cheryl last semester of lawschool! yipee! DRAGON BEADS Flameworked beads and glass
....I was going to *say*. ~~ Sooz
------- "Those in the cheaper seats clap. The rest of you rattle your jewelry." John Lennon (1940 - 1980) Royal Varieties Performance ~ Dr. Sooz's Bead Links
On Thu, 8 Apr 2004 18:17:30 -0400, Kalera Stratton wrote (in message ):
Actually, I'd bet at least a few people would recognize that. I've been to a few places where people recognized my name, people who only "knew" me through my posts. Its very freaky.
Have no fear, though: everyone tells me I'm exactly like my written persona. Whether that's a good or a bad thing, I'll leave up to the reader.
Kalera, you're from Portland, OR, yes? I have lots of friends there. As far as I know, and I have looked, there are no other Kathy N-Vs in the US.
Kathy N-V
On Thu, 8 Apr 2004 18:29:45 -0400, vj wrote (in message ):
Note to self: Do not drink carbonated beverages while reading R.C.B.
Kathy N-V
Gak! I don't even live MY life by that tenet!
Kathy N-V
The word "nice" has gone thru so many meanings over the centuries that now it is virtually impossible to tell, in a document such as a letter with no other surrounding context, which sense was intended. At various times it has meant: stupid/foolish, lascivious/wanton, extravagant, elegant, strange, slothful, unmanly, luxurious, modest, slight, precise, thin, shy, discriminating, dainty, overly-sensitive or fussy. (From "The Mother Tongue" by Bill Bryson, which I'm currently reading.) And that's our trivia for today.
Celine
Let's see... Hmmm... Lascivious... wanton... strange... Geez! I guess I *am* nice. LOL!
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-Kalera
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