HOORAY!

But - but - but - that is the point I am making - you do have someone who will eventually turn up to rescue you (note, must email John and tell him I can understand why I would turn my hearing aid off and let her find her own way out lol) whereas, Karen, or myself, would not. I have prepared for all the eventualities I can think of but you can bet the one that happens, I won't have thought of lol

I have done things like putting a 'phone on the side of the bath, reachable from the floor. People laugh but as I point out to them, it has nothing to do with making calls from the throne but everything to do with the bathroom being the most dangerous room in the house and I don't want to lie on a ceramic floor for days trying to make people hear me call. (They won't anyway, this is a concrete building and I never hear anything) Now I am in rude health, but Karen is not, but I can understand her difficulties. She doesn't have a Jane or John, or kids like myself.

Don`t you have a system of Emergency calling , that you can hang near you ? Both in Europe and In Israel , you have it. Also you could arrange a Daily Ring of callers , who at a certain hour will call , no.1 calls no.2 , 2 calls 3 ,, etc,,,,, last one calls no.1 ,, if anyone in the ring doesn`t answer, a person with an emergency key is sent to look in the flat . mirjam

Nice to hear you are designing new xst i would love to hear about this. Of course i meant private postcards, not commercial ones.. almost thought offering you some of mine , or my other nonexistant me you invented with a push on the keyboard.

-------- Ps next time you go checking the attic , take a cellular phone with you!!!!! That`s why i make little cellular bags for my friends, to carry it round their necks when they do something on their own. One broke her ankle on a long morning walk, and blessed me for the bag, which made her take the phone. Another couldn`t get out of her studio, and used it as well. mirjam

It made me think of my husband, towards the end of his life, saying to the kids that if it wasn't for me, he would have to live in a home, he would not have been able to even begin to manage on his own.

Now I think I will let this go after saying it would be nice to have some sympathy for people we know as well as rushing to aid those we don't.

I`m doing one of Athelhampton House in Dorset, built in 1485 and one of our most haunted houses, and another is Otley Hall, here in Suffolk built in the

Otley Hall was the home of the Gosnold family who lived at Otley from 1401 for more than 250 years. Bartholomew Gosnold (1571-1607) voyaged to the New World, where in 1602 he discovered Cape Cod and Martha's Vineyard, which he named after his infant daughter. In 1607, 13 years before the Mayflower landed, he returned to found the Jamestown colony, the first English speaking settlement in America.

You can find pictures of them on several websites. Google will find them.

Pat P

WOW thank you mrs PP , this is facinating i will google and see how those Houses look !! Thank you mirjam

You did, but he doesn't live with me.

Being a guy, he's willing to drive, but not to clean. So, yes, with his assistance, I can get out to do a bit of shopping that I wouldn't be able to manage if I had to take the bus.

Damn. Another one of those nasty generalizations. My husband does all the vacuuming, all the laundry, and he puts the dishes away. In fact, if I drag my feet long enough over washing them (we don't have a dishwasher), he even does that.

Elizabeth

Mine too. In fact, he also cooks about 50% of the meals, and then cleans up after himself. He's even been known to clean a toilet!

--Mickey Mansfield, MA

to reply: mickey18385 at yahoo dot com

DHs that can clean a toilet? I didn't know those existed.

My dh is wonderful -- cleans house, does laundry, does most of the cooking, plus works full time, and I don't work outside the home.

But he has never, in my memory or his, cleaned a tub or toilet. He just never thinks about it.

If I died, and the health dept checked on him a year later, he'd live in a pristine house and would have gained weight, but the tub and toilets would be black.

I'm very "talkative" today -- must be my nerves over Rita.

-- Jere

In this case, it's not a generalization. It's his stated sentiments. He's willing to clean his own place (since there's no one else to do it), but draws the line at cleaning someone else's because it's ingrained in him that that's women's work.

Then you could try expressing it as his stated sentiments "he says that since he's a guy, he's unwilling to clean" instead of making it seem like all guys are that way. Actually, you can express it anyway you want, LOL, but one way is truer to what you wanted to say than the other, it would seem.

Elizabeth

Can he come teach my son to do the toilets? He's responsible for the disgusting mess and than claims he was asleep!

Cheryl

LOL!!

Dude does occasionally grab the brush and take off the rust/silt? that settles on the porcelain. But it has never entered his mind that the seat and outside of the bowl need cleaning too!

But at least, in a house full of females, he never leaves the seat up!

Caryn

Jere -

Your DH sounds *exactly* like my DH. Once, when I insisted he do the bathrooms for a change, he did eventually take care of them....by calling "Merry Maids" and paying them a big hourly wage to do it!

I've come to accept that he has a "limit" in the bathroom-cleaning dept, though, like your DH, he does everything else willingly and voluntarily! I can live with that.

Sue (also wishing the best for everyone in the Rita-zone!)

What the hell is a Geminite?

Darla Something that gemmates through your filters mirjam