OFF TOPIC - my turn to whine

Either dose his juice with his pain pills or take one yourself and ignore him for a few hours!

Ok, bad advice, but I hope the image made you smile!

Caryn (who remembers what Dude was like after his operation to take out a kidney stone, therefore you have my full sympathy)

You are.

There's not much worse than a sick man....

Now here's a thought -- when dd had jaw surgery, and was wired shut, she drove me nuts, nuts, nuts! I crushed a xanax in her OJ, and darned if it didn't calm both of us.

I'll trade you. DH has a habit of not letting on that he's in pain. Before I met him, he had:

Walked a week and a half on a fractured ankle during an distance march exercise and didn't see a medic until FORCED to after somebody spotted his slight limp.

On another march, walked until the skin and a quarter of an inch of meat(!!!) FELL OFF BOTH HEELS! Eek! Never even made the slightest noise the whole time it took for the skin and meat to grow back.

He gets rather stoic when I tend to his knocks, cuts, and blisters. The only time he needs babying is when I'm laid up and would prefer not to be bothered. Go figure!

The thing that unnerves me is that it's not that he's being a moron and refusing treatment...it's just that his pain threshold is dangerously high. He simply doesn't realize that something is badly wrong. I'm terrified that he's going to injure himself and I'm not going to find out until it's gotten so bad that he's going to be in the hospital a while (or dead).

I'd rather he turn into a whimpering baby. I can cope with that fine.

You wanna trade, girlfriend? He can cook, too! Becky A.

I used to threaten my overgrown child that if he wanted to act like a two-year-old, he was going to be treated like a two-year-old. Then came back into the room tapping the wooden spoon in my hand. Somehow, he didn't think spanking was part of the deal.

Then I took away everything that I wouldn't give a toddler: money, credit cards, car keys, Adult Beverage of Choice.....

And tried sending him to bed at 7 PM.

Cheryl Isaak ,in rec.crafts.textiles.needleworkwrote: and entertained us with

Sheesh, those Pampers must cost an arm and a leg RDH

You've missed your calling. Some people pay good money for that.

Well, rock it on over there, girlie and I'll move in to give you an empathetic bear hug. In the 4 years my hub and I have been married he has had:

1. Root canal (year 1)
2. Uvulopalatopharyngoplasty and septoplasty (year 2)
3. Knee arthroscopy (year 3)
4. Carpal tunnel release (year 4)

He has yet to have the other carpal tunnel release, the other knee scoped, and bariatric surgery.

For starters.

DON'T TEMPT ME!

Cheryl

Oh yah!!!

Cheryl

(who is now wondering why if she is spread as thin as she currently is, why is she gaining weight!)

Thank goodness he doesn't need those! C

I've been lucky with Dude, just the kidney stone thing. That lasted over a month from the first stone passing to the surgery. Drove me nuts, and then later bragged that he'd hardly taken any of the pain meds they gave him.

I found them useful for the stress induced neck pain tho!

Caryn

Becky, Not that it will do much good, but tell DH from me to be more careful! Like him, I have an extremely high pain tolerance, and I've done myself so much harm over the last ten years that could have been avoided if I had realized how much pain I *was* in. I will sometimes realize that something hurts, but not be aware of the magnitude of the pain I should be feeling. That and I live with chronic pain (early-onset osteoarthritis) so I learned ages ago to just ignore it. For example, I broke my hip and walked on it for 2 months before going to the Dr's, at 25 years of age, no less! I knew I'd hurt it (I fell, twisting climbing up metal stairs, but in my defense, I was carrying a cross-stitch I'd just paid $300 to frame, and I was d@mned if it was hitting first!) I bruised from waist to knee. I knew it hurt. I just figured I'd bruised the bone. I kept walking on it and doing everything I normally would. As a result, it didn't heal right, and I have 'relearned' to walk incorrectly and have problems with my leg muscles, my back muscles, and my spine alignment. And that's just one of the "but it didn't really hurt" injuries, I could go on! Yell at DH, drag him to the Dr, or trick him if necessary*. I promise he'll forgive you. Heather

*that's how DH got me to the Dr. about my hip. He'd already talked to her and booked my appointment for my vaccination booster... He just 'neglected' to tell me she'd be checking on my hip too!

Becky A wrote:

It's a guy thing. Stick his iPod on your ears. Shake your head. Tell him you know he's scared, but..... More like he's working into the terrible twos.

And keep using the phone to call and whine ;^)

ellice

Poor thing. Personally, I fall into the really high pain threshold situation, so DH has to nag me about the leg problem - when he notices I'm really limpting. I feel like he got me after my warranty ran out.

2 leg surgeries - and 2 more coming Periodontal surgery - very yucky, and I suspect another coming And the perpeutally falling off veneer which turned into an implant, and then a crown popped on a large molar - so, new crown.

OTOH, DH finally gave in and had his shoulder looked at a few years ago. It was definitely bothering him, and he's known for a fast glove hand. Doc looks at the X-rays and says "when did you break your collarbone?" Huh? Looks like the goofball had broken his collarbone - likely in college or high school - and continued to play both football and hockey through the pain. Now, almost 20 years later - a chip had broken off the end - and he'd just been ignoring it. Plus, his rotator cuff was messed up. So, he got shot-up with cortisone, we went to the Adult AAA North American championships, in Vancouver, and with the miracle of lots of homeopathic stuff which I got easily in Van, kept the old guys playing, and they won (beating a very smug team from Calgary that had "never lost to any Americans" . DH got the MVP, and for a change deserved it. Came home - next week - shoulder surgery. Of course, in the locker room after the finals - great picture - his collarbone had completely rotated down about an inch - very yucky.

Now the important thing - big, brave, boy. Has surgery. Shoulders - very painful - lots of nerves passing through that nexus. Had to have the labrum (lining of the socket) reattached with fun new pins. Couple of days in hospital and then home. You have never heard more whining than when the doc told us to start moving the arm (after 2 weeks). And I would have to hold it, and raise it up - unbelievable. Then physical therapy after a few more weeks (had to wait because of the labrum attachment besides the rotator cuff stuff, and they filed off the rough end of the clavicle). I think there was a good 2 months of whimpering - he named his Physical Therapist "Dr. Pain" - because of the post therapy stretching.

But, back to hockey - not missing a beat - in the fall. Surgery was in July.

Next - he twists his knee in some power-skating class - it was ugly. Partial tear of the MCL&ACL. No surgery - just therapy eventually - and some knee braces. But, he's got incredibly well developed quads which evidently saved the knee ligaments. So, all is healed up - but in total boy paranoia - still wears a light knee support when he's in goal - but the doc said if it makes him feel better just leave it.

It just amazed me at the amount of whimpering after the shoulder surgery, given the toughing it out to finish a season and play the tourney! It's just guys.

ellice

Because you're eating junk while standing up.

Take some time and sit down with something healthy! Or get some food delivered that's good - and take some time off for you.

ellice

I always had a high pain threshold, too. By the time the doctor gave me the OK to put weight on my damaged knee, I was already doing ballet exercises with it so it wouldn't stiffen up.

But the shocker was last year when the chiro took x-rays and wanted to know about the accident that caused the three fractured vertebrae ten years earlier. I had no idea, but I could see them for myself on the x-ray. He couldn't imagine what sort of person could fracture THREE vertebrae and not know about it. Ummmmmm, the same sort of person who got a badly sprained ankle and was doing the polka on it less than 24 hours later?

I'm guessing it happened the night I fell and pulled the ligaments in my foot. After walking a mile on the damaged ligaments, to somewhere I could get a ride home, he figures the ligaments were screaming so much that it overpowered the broken back. Since I couldn't afford time off work to appease the doctor's orders to stay off the foot, and had to walk a mile home from the bus stop every night (also in violation of doctor's orders), the foot hurt like hell for weeks ... till after the 6 weeks required to heal broken bones.

After my discussion with the pain management specialist last year, I know now that was not a good thing ... the longer you grit your teeth and endure the pain, the more likely that you have permanent changes to the central nervous system that will cause chronic pain (and perhaps the chemical imbalance involved in fibromyalgia).

I find it particularly amusing that the PCP who didn't know the first thing about CFS told me to tough it out, but the specialists keep telling me that toughing it out was precisely the WRONG thing to do, both with the injuries and with the virus that caused the CFS. According to them, I should've been beating doctors with a baseball bat to get pain pills and disability benefits so I wouldn't have lifelong problems. Sometimes it doesn't pay to be a workaholic!

No whining - does sound pretty dang good right now. A cook - I'll find DH's passport right not. Are you sure you're up to nursing him?

C

The car keys are gone for a few more weeks!

That - I do all day long - go take a nap!

Cheryl