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OT!! Signed, sealed and nearly delivered.

Thanks to my friends here who sent me supportive messages regarding my MIL and Assisted Living. As planned we broached the subject to her after dinner on Sunday. We gave her all our research material, and brochures, and pointed out that only one facility would let her keep her cat, AND permit her an electric wheelchair. She was interested, and went off to her room for the rest of the day. Next morning, she told DH that there was no way she could afford more than three weeks (?) and she wouldn't go. I came home from the dentist to a sad state of affairs.

I talked her into going to see the place we thought she would like, and she agreed to go. We called the marketing person ( don't know why they call her that, as they rarely have vacancies) and off we went. Well, she enjoyed the tour, and everyone was bending over backwards to help. I think she was still saying "No" when she noticed that the resident across the hallway was male, and he waved to her. We had a discussion regarding money, and said that we would help her out as much as we could, and that I had checked, and she could cash in a CD with no penalty.

Next day, she asked us to call the place, and say she will be going. We went today, with oodles of paperwork; Jim has started checking with VA to see if she is eligible for widow's benefits from her late husband. We know he was in the Navy, well before they met, but do not know if the time period was wartime. IF all that works out, it would cover 1/3 of her monthly bill. Incidentally, she was dressed to the nines, painted eyebrows and all, and asked how many men were there!! 88 and still wanting to be noticed!LOL

So, friends, May 2 will be the beginning of the "rest of our life".

She has been so nice and quiescent the last few days, it has been putting quite a guilt trip on me! Then I remember all the times she has shut herself away from us, called us liars, we hated her etc., and remembered that her eldest grandson commented "Grammy can put a guilt trip on you more than anyone I know", and feel we are doing the right thing.

Thanks all of you for being there for me. Rather than write to everyone with the same info, I thought it would be simpler to post it. Cheryl, and Elizabeth, we WILL be in NH in October!!!!

Gillian

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Gill Murray
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God Almighty, Gill, she sounds like a female version of my father! I`ll be keeping my fingers crossed that May 2nd. comes and goes without any unwarranted dramas. Keep us posted!

Pat P

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Pat EAXStitch

I am so glad to see it worked out for you Gillian. It's perfectly possible she will take on a new lease on life when she moves in there. She can probably feel smarter than many, it certainly worked for a friends mother here. She was taking the tea trolley around and feeling very important and useful, she loved it.

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Lucretia Borgia

I'm delighted to hear such good news. I hope she continues to like it and settles in nicely.

Lucille

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Lucille

Hurrah!

C
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Cheryl Isaak

This is exceedingly good news. I have a couple of friends are at the contempation stage of having to do the same thing. They are aging faster than they should, are always tired and get sick more often than they should because they are so rundown from dealing with all the issues of caring for and housing an elderly parent (especially when that parent should have been in an assisted living facility years ago). My hopes are that everything goes as planned for you Gill and that you can then start your motorhome living that you have planned.

Anne (> Thanks to my friends here who sent me supportive messages regarding my

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Anne Tuchscherer

I hope that things work out well for both you, Jim and your MIL, Gillian. This change of scenery might be just what she needed! Also it's time for you and Jim to have the freedom to come and go as you like. Wishing good times ahead for all of you!

Mavia

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Mavia Beaulieu

Passing the Cyber-Champagne, Gillian!

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Karen C - California

Thanks, gang!! It IS exciting, and we are looking forward to getting Dottie comfortably settled, then we can travel with a clear conscience. We are getting quite high with the lifting of the "big black cloud", and don't need the champagne!!

Gillian

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Gill Murray

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