I think a lot of us knit. I have a few reference books and found that really helpful when I was learning - so I could go back and look, easily. And when I'm doing something more complicated from a pattern book or magazine - I'll often turn to a reference to be sure of how a particular stitch should be done.
I have Stitch'n Bitch - which is a good, basic, book. And Donna Kooler's encyclopedia of Knitting - which has excellent instructions and diagrams for things like various cast ons, bind-offs, increases, decreasess, plus a pattern library.
My hint - I actually keep counters around - I have a click one - that I hit w/each row in some patterns. The pattern may be a repeat 10 times of 8 rows, so I'll have the first digit tell me which group, and just click the
2nd to know which row I just did. Sometimes it just gets too complicated to just remember. Also, I keep a post-it pad w/ my knitting project, and may just do tick-marks to keep my count. Or write any note that I need. It helps. Personally, the most anal thing I do - I rewrite instructions. If I'm getting something from a mag, or even a pattern book - I'll write the instructions out on a couple of sheets of paper so they're large and clear, might be "R Chest" on one page, "Back" on another, etc - and put them in page protectors. I find once I've really read through and then written it, the pattern will be clearer to me - and if there is anything confusing - I'll get help, get it clarified to be sure I interpret it correctly.Knitting can be quite addictive!
Ellice