Now I really don't mean to be a downer here but have you considered what/where your tools and stash would go if you passed ( or failed)? There's a little paragraph in my will that says that my opals go to the only October baby in our family. Other than that - not specifically much. Why I mention this is because there have been three very young deaths in our family this year; all so young I guess they never thought they needed a will. What a terrible 'assume'. What a painful 'assume'. If you get run down by a motorcycle in the aisle at prayer meeting Wednesday night at the First Methodist Church - would your stash be sold at an Estate Sale for 25¢ a yard? And why wouldn't that be okay? Maybe someone who quilts would cherish it. Would it be stuck in a storage rent-all by Greedy Aunt Gertie who will never use it and never turn it loose? Your thoughts? Polly
Well, being who I am, I've had a will since I was 29 because of all the flying and where I lived in a lesser safe place in the US, bush Alaska, prone to random accidents of flying everywhere. Updated when I was about 38 and needing to update again. I'm currently preparing a document that has all financial, insurance, benificiary and other property listed that will go to all pertinent family members to be opened upon my death so they can have all information in one spot and the ability to process everything quickly and efficiently. Also a list of who gets what things such as the eskimo doll made by a village eskimo elder to Bert's daughter and the grass baskets to Bert's son, etc. I've even asked four former students for their contact information to be pallbearers at my service, whatever service my family decides within my guidelines even with cremation being my choice. My quilting stash? Well, I haven't added that to my list yet, not that I haven't thought about it because I have. I just don't know where to have all my fabric, books, notions and machines go. I just do know that I want it to go to person(s) that want it or will appreciate it. I have other things on the list to decide as well, just haven't worked through it all yet, but your post reminds me that yes, I really must.
All done. When my circumstances changed so radically last year, one of the things to be considered was all the 'end of life' stuff. It was a rough few months doing it all; but now I have Will (very detailed and prescriptive), Power of Attorney, hymns and readings for the requiem, grave plot and type of coffin. It felt good getting it all done - even though it was so horrible to be thinking of all these things, so soon after the break up and all that entailed. But, I have a very efficient solicitor and I can now breathe easily about all those 'ultimates'- even forget them with a bit of luck! Sensible reminder, Polly.. . In message , Polly Esther writes
I have not done this, but I really need to do this with my mother. She has Stage IV breast cancer. Her prognosis was six years, in '07, or take longer depending on new medications and how she reacts to treatments.
We have the Advance Health Care Directive, just need to fill it out. Who do we go to for a Will and Power of Attorney? What kind of attorney? Anyone have suggestions for the East valley of Phoenix?
Choose carefully, Mary. I've always been around attorneys and there's as much variety there as there is with doctors or any other skill. Some are thorough and brilliant. Some's Daddy must have bought their law degree because they don't know diddly and would rather be playing golf. Polly
I have my 5 wishes filled out, a copy registered with my doctor, those who need to know at work know my DNR demand. Will is complete, my stash of fabric and yarn have been allocated to the Girl Scouts and local Senior Concerns. Power of Attorney is done. Back in 1999 when I had my serious surgery, I remember sitting in the car at 4AM and writing everything out, things were so crystal clear that morning. It has been updated since then.
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It's not in my will but both DH & DD know that, once I have gone to the Rainbow Bridge to meet up with all my Angel Babies, my stash room is to be opened up to all of my friends. They may take whatever they want. When they are finished, my remaining stash is to be given to the local Women's Shelter or a similar organization. When I packing up stuff in preparation for putting the house on the market and moving here, I obviously had to go through all of my stash. I had a pile of stuff I was bringing with me, a pile of stuff to send to Jill (
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}, and a pile of stuff to be given away. Actually the give away pile was more like Mt. Rushmore -- LOLOL! I had fabrics for quilting, sewing & needlework and patterns for quilting, sewing & needlework and books for quilting, sewing & needlework and a whole passel of needlework kits and miscellaneous craft "stuff". I had so much stuff that I loaded up two suitcases and FOUR large tote bags (and I STILL had Mt. Rushmore sized pile left!!) and took it to my Needlework Group meeting in April. All my friends got to take what they wanted and I was going to give the rest to the Goodwill until one of the women said the youth group at her church was having a "craft" item yard sale the next weekend. I told her to take what was left and let her church group sell it and do whatever they wanted with what was not sold :-). Now, one of my friends was late showing up for the meeting and she mentioned that her Ladies Group at church was having their annual Summer Sale the last weekend of May. I told her and my Needlework Group that I STILL had a bunch of stuff to be given away and would be bringing it to the May Needlework Group meeting. So come May, I again pack up the two suitcases and FIVE tote bags this time with the last of my stuff and schlepp it to the meeting. Everyone took what they wanted and the rest went to my friends church group for them to sale. I still have boxes and boxes of stuff in storage and piles of stuff I brought to the cabin with me but I got rid of absolutely massive amounts of stuff and was happy to do so. I knew my friends got what they wanted and the rest went to a worthy cause -- a win-win if you ask me :-). CiaoMeow >^;;^<
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Gosh! Your former stash sounds a lot more than I have, BUT I have WAY too much. Intentions were to go through it this summer, but I have been too sick to do a through job. Plans were, and are, to sew up as much as I can for my DGD school clothes ( 4th grade) and pillowcases, and maybe make a couple quilts. DH & I have wills that won't need to be updated as we have only 1 son, and he has a family. I've already made sure he has a working Kenmore SM. DIL does not sew. DH & DS know what to do with m y best SMs, and give the cloth to any friends who ask for it and the rest to Goodwill. When I get to FL this winter I will finish cleaning out the stash down there and get it down to the bare necessities. Not feeling well these past 2 years has really woke me up as to what HAS to get done! The days I feel well made me go through things the best I can! Barbara in SC
You kind of lost me with the 'being of sound mind' part of this. lol There have been a few losses in our local quilting community here as of late. Much has gone to charity and others sold at yard sales. I think some of this stuff just is forever shuffled around. I don't think there is anyone in the family that has any interest in my stash. DH has been advised that if I 'go first' he just should marry another quilter. Thank you for getting me really thinking of this stuff. You are right, nothing should be assumed. I am sorry for your losses. That is tough. My heart goes out to you all. Hugs, Taria
Now I really don't mean to be a downer here but have you considered what/where your tools and stash would go if you passed ( or failed)? There's a little paragraph in my will that says that my opals go to the only October baby in our family. Other than that - not specifically much. Why I mention this is because there have been three very young deaths in our family this year; all so young I guess they never thought they needed a will. What a terrible 'assume'. What a painful 'assume'. If you get run down by a motorcycle in the aisle at prayer meeting Wednesday night at the First Methodist Church - would your stash be sold at an Estate Sale for 25¢ a yard? And why wouldn't that be okay? Maybe someone who quilts would cherish it. Would it be stuck in a storage rent-all by Greedy Aunt Gertie who will never use it and never turn it loose? Your thoughts? Polly
Taria, I know. That being of 'sound mind' does presume a lot, doesn't it? I'm reckoning that I need to watch my diet, take my vitamins and exercise. Need to hang on a while until there's an heir who would love to have the treasures I don't get to. We have two unmarried grandsons who are unattached. Maybe I'll be blessed with a grand dil who creates. It could happen. Polly
"Polly Esther" Taria, I know. That being of 'sound mind' does presume a lot, doesn't it?
Since I first read this thread I got busy and cleaned out my 6 drawer bin with pattern & thread, and stuff I won't use and separated it and am taking it this afternoon to an OES friend. It's almost 2 WalMart bags full including 4 cones of thread I hope she can use. Now, I need to start folding cloth and making a neater pile of it in the sewing room!
Barbara in SC where it has not rained in a very long time and I've forgotten what it is supposed to sound like. It is supposed to start tonight.
On Fri, 2 Sep 2011 22:58:19 -0500, Polly Esther wrote (in article ):
Good question. We're working on wills now, and I know I will have to do something about that. Likely, I'll have the stash donated to our ASG chapter for use in charity projects or for sale with the money to be used for the charity projects.
Finished quilts? Not so sure. Too many for my sister and sisters-in-law to want them all. I'm still noodling what to do with the rest of my studio. Wonder if I can have "studio executer" like my quilting buddies to handle that aspect.
First, let me say, Polly, I'm so sorry to hear that you've lost loved ones at tender ages (and that could be any age). It's always sad to say goodbye to loved ones but particularly those that have not had very full lives yet.
To those others reading and curious, you want a good 'estate' attorney for wills and powers of attorney. Speak with elders you know for recommendations or go to your local 'Shark & Shark' attorney offices. It's worth the $$.
As to me - don't really have a 'stash' per se - just leftovers from overbuying for projects. Machines & tools are a different story. Worst case I think they will go to a friend's daughter who is a young, up & coming quilter. Or another friend's daughter who is into 'fashion design'. No one else in the family and most friends just aren't interested.
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