Jim and I are back from 10 days in Hendersonville where we met my parents for a family vacation. My parents have no interest in traditionally feminine activities. They actively don't know how to cook, go out a lot, or get others to cook for them. My mother treats a knowledge or interest in all things sewing as some arcane and useless talent, the way some people have perfect pitch or can intuit 12 digit prime numbers. My father has memories of his mother supporting the family by sewing on a treadle during the Great Depression, but it's not something you'd do for fun. I adore quilts and quilting. They accept this about me but secretly wonder if I was switched at the hospital.
The first thing I did was take them for a tour of a quilt shop. I didn't mean to. I wanted to drop by for a private orgy, but you know how it is with family and limited time and rental cars. If I was going to get a chance to go, they were going to come along.
The first point of connection was the 30s repro fabrics. I showed them the shelf, told them about the renewed interest, and how these were based on originals. They loved them. They thought of people they knew who would wear housecoats made out of exactly such fabrics. They remembered the way women would wear aprons with the small designs, then take them off to go shopping downtown. They brought up the sophisticated ladies who wore tailored black and pinstripe. Those were
30s fabrics too.
I showed Mom how new laser technologies made it possible to get a greater selection of patterns on flannel. I noticed her reaching out to pet the fabric. She's catching on, I thought.
The batiks had less appeal for them. They were interested in the room of novelty fabrics. My nieces and nephews have different interests and might like fabrics with basketballs or dolls. Mom was interested in a Raggedy Anne doll for the youngest granddaughter, but she was so turned off by the misspelling (raggaddy) that she thought better of buying it.
The sales clerk (owner?) asked us what sorts of quilts we made. I said that I was mostly a piecer and machine quilter, that I knew how to do hand applique and hand piecing, but while I love the result, I didn't love doing it. Mom, of course, doesn't sew anything. It was a funny moment. The women in the shop wanted to connect with Mom because she's older, but Mom had no common ground with which to make that connection.
Dad was intrigued by big boxes of buttons. I helped him pick out 10 matching ones. As he now has the bent over shape of an old man, he has a seamstress in Miami who puts buttons and button holes in the right places so he can wear suspenders instead of a belt. He was thrilled buying buttons.
They had a whole room of fusibles. I told my parents about how some people love them and some people don't think their use belongs in real quilting. I showed them the class samples of embroidery done on top of the line Berninas and mentioned the same thing. Some think the new technologies are great. Some think they're cheating.
I felt like a tour guide in my native country trying to give clueless tourists some idea of why I love my home, why it excites me. My parents understand enthusiasm, but they don't understand enthusiasm about fabric.
I showed them variagated thread. Dad pronounced that beautiful. I'd realized that I hadn't found any fabric that I couldn't live without, didn't have the suitcase space for it anyway, and was starting to feel embarrassed for walking into a place of business and treating it like a museum. Dad's getting hard of hearing, and they've both been loud talkers their whole lives anyway, so I'd been practically yelling. I couldn't walk out with only a purchase of buttons. So I bought variagated thread, beautiful purples, blues, and greens.
There were more quilt shops in town, and Jim and I did find some time alone to visit them, but the timing never worked. I didn't get to them when they were open.
--Lia