hug for manager?

Your first impulse was to give - so go ahead.

At a time like this every kindness and good wish count doubly.

If you are worried about how it will look at work send it privately with a simple note wishing her well. Gifts do not have to be public to be appreciated.

Anita

You're being human. It's from the heart and you are showing that you care. At a time like this she will need to know that friends of all levels are thinking of her and wishing her the best. What better thing to know. I say no worries and send it off.

Steve Alaska

I've been working on a lap quilt for her, actually, quillow, and the top is completed. I'm suddenly hit by some doubt as to whether it's appropriate for me to give her something like this. I only make quilts for family, close friends, and charity. I've never made one for someone else, especially a manager that I do not know very well.

I know that she would understand how much time and effort go into this. I'm just worried now if it is too much to give to an acquaintance, and a manager, especially...

The whole group has been very generous and have sent her flowers, food, gift cards, etc. So, it's not like I am the only one who is showing extra effort. I intend this quilt just because I know she will be going through heck when the chemo starts, but I'm just a bit worried...

-- Anita --

Do not worry, it's a gift from the heart.........you acted on instinct, your feelings, don't doubt now:)

My goodness, yes, it's a loving idea. Do send it privately. Even we grownups need our blankies and she can have it to hug when she needs one, maybe even like our Pami and carry it with her to chemo. I believe she will cherish your thoughfulness. Polly

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Anita.. don't look at it as sending a hug to your manager. look at it as sending comfort to a woman with breast cancer.. go for it.. but send it privately.. she will love it, i am sure. I think it's a superduper idea!

just my two euro cents...

FiederEls

Don't second-guess your quilts. They go where they need to go. If she's not a person you would normally hug, then don't call the quilt a "hug". But I'm sure your first impulse was a good one! Roberta in D

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Wow, that pretty much says it all. I have a big lump in my throat. And I've made a mental note to follow up my "good thoughts" for someone with "good actions" more often than I do. I always say I have good intentions, but lousy follow through. Thanks for the nudge. KJ

I absolutely agree with Polly.

Hi Anita,

I did the same thing for a co-worker I've known for many years who was diagnosed with cancer a few months back. I had a very colorful & cheerful log cabin top that wasn't finished and decided to finish it and give it to Linda, who was, IMHO, showing a great deal of courage and determination and was confronting her diagnosis head-on.

I did not give it to her in front of anyone; just put it (wrapped) on her office chair one day when she was out. When she came to thank me (she was totally taken aback) one of the things I said was along the lines of I knew she was facing a tough battle, and the hug was more ammunition :) She absolutely loves that quilt, and many times mentioned how it lifted her spirits (ah! it's working!)

In fact....Linda has now taken up quilting; she's asked her family for a new sewing machine for Christmas. She is in the process of making her first quilt, a wall hanging, for her oncologist.

Who knows, perhaps one day she'll be joining RCTQ....

-Irene

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Anita I think you should definitely give her the quilt. There's nothing inappropriate about being a thoughtful, caring individual. Your first instinct was a good one.

Patti in Seattle

Anita, I can't imagine that she would be anything but very touched at your gesture. What's different about sending a quilt/quillow as opposed to sending food or anything else (except, perhaps, the time involved in making it)? Nothing! It simply shows how much you value her as your manager, and I'm sure it will give her comfort for a lot longer than flowers, beautiful as they are, or anything else. Go for it! :)

My thoughts exactly, and your gift will be something that will be useful. When she is resting, or feeling chilly she won't have to look around for something to cover her, your quilt will be there, all ready. If she doesn't need a quilt at that particular moment, she will have her own personal pillow instead.

A brilliant idea - carry on and finish it!

I am a bc survivor myself (as is my husband from colon cancer 2x). Quilts are treasured gifts and you do wrap up in them during chemo. The absolute envy of every other patient in there. A quilt 'is' a hug from the heart.

Absolutley, Anita. I'd vote with the others to give her this gift of yours from your heart. It needn't be done in front of others. It is between you two, woman to woman.

What a lov> My manager, Jackie, is someone I've known

Thanks so much for all your support. You're all correct, of course. My instinct to make the quilt for Jackie was automatic and I always trust my instincts. I do intend to give it to her privately; she's being very brave about her cancer and I do mean the quilt as a hug.

-- Anita --

What a lovely story.

-- Anita --

What a wonderful thought! Have you considering including either some of the "Quest for a Cure" fabric, or maybe some of the literature, to show that the entire world of quilters is behind her. Maybe that would bridge the connection for you. Just an idea.