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OT: Postive vibes/prayers

This is not a major situation like others, but I would like to ask for some positive vibes/prayers for my DH. He is having a hard time at work lately, and it is getting him really down which doesn't help the situation. If you want more info read on, if not that's understandable too.

I stay at home with our kids so he is our only source of income, and because he sells cars that income can vary greatly from month to month adding to his pressure. He doesn't take vacation like most people around here because that cuts his pay check. He is offered 2 weeks paid vacation, but it is paid at a percentage(depends on how long you've been employed there) of what he averaged for two weeks the previous year, so it is a loss of income for us. Because of the nature of the game he works many more hours than he is 'scheduled' because many customers like to believe that he has no life and should be available when ever even after being told he won't be. If he doesn't go in then someone else handles it and thus gets the commission for it. Others understand and apologize, but can't come in at another time. We have a mini- vacation planed for Mon, and Tues, and coming back Wed. because of the holiday. Nothing special just taking the kids to the MN zoo and the science center in the cities. We were planning a couple day thing with a hotel stay and some fun pool time for the kids. Now because of a bad sales month DH is talking about canceling it to work instead to try to get another sale or two. Although a little more in his paycheck from a sale not to mention another sale for his managers would be nice, but we can make do without it. He really needs a break, and the kids could really use some fun time with their dad, so I'm hoping I can talk him into going anyways. We'll see. This has turned out to be much longer than I had expected, but if you could send some positive vibes/prayers his way to help him change things around at work (because too much of this and we will have issues this winter in the slow months) that would really help!!! He's really feeling down and that doesn't bring in more sales.

Reply to
Charlotte Hippen
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Sending hugs and prayers for your hubby to sell like crazy to feel like he can take some time. I know he means well by working so hard, but you and the kids need him too, for more than just money. Take care,

Reply to
Debi Matlack

Having worked in auto dealerships for 25+ years, I understand the uncertainty of his income. I hope he scores big just before you leave and then he can go in a happy frame of mind.

Reply to
Leslie & The Furbabies in MO.

Hi Charlotte, Postive vibrations coming your way.

I realize you didn't ask for advice, but here goes anyway :) Any chance you can take >This is not a major situation like others, but I would like to ask for = some=20

Reply to
IMS

When I worked, I was self employed, and if I took a vacation I didn't get paid so I feel your pain. I heard on the news the other day that even people who are on salaried pay, don't often take their vacations as they feel pressured to stay connected and pull for the company. I know that is not much consolation, but he is, unfortunately, in good company. I at least had a wife who was salaried so all the burden was not on my shoulders. He is carrying the whole load so the strain is greater. I am sending good vibes to you and him and hope that he makes a big sale or two so that you can take a couple of days and recharge your batteries. Sometimes when you come back from such a mini vacation, you are charged up and can do more sales than if you had stayed on the job and the overall money flow is greater. Hope so in your case.

Best wishes,

John

Reply to
John

Sending prayers and positive vibes your way, Charlotte. Sounds like you're between a rock and a hard place and my heart goes out to you.

Reply to
dogmom

Charlotte, I'm hoping things ease up for your DH soon. Sales of any kind is a very difficult way to make a living -- my DF sold houses for a while when I was very young, and I remember hearing my parents argue about money/time a lot.

Reply to
Sandy

Sending all those good thoughts/vibes/etc. I can sure relate to working too many hours and missing out on the fun and important things! Most of us owe our employers and customers a great deal of loyalty, but it's nice to have a life!

Reply to
Carolyn McCarty

Thanks everyone. Although he still feels like he should work instead, DH has decided we will still go as the kids are really looking forward to it, and he would really like to spend time with them. Hopefully the break is just what he needs to come back ready to work again.

Reply to
Charlotte Hippen

Thanks for the advise. We have talked about it off and on as to whether I should go back to work, but we've always come back to the decision to stay at home until the youngest (now 3) goes to school. My working wouldn't bring in much by the time we pay for daycare for the kids. Also the nature of his job means he would work many hours even if he were able to cut back a little. This way even though the kids don't get much time with their dad, at least they get lots of mom (probably more than the want at times). Even though he can't just go out and buy a new stereo, saws, etc on a whim like some of his coworkers, DH has said how much he loves that I stay at home with our boys and is almost more for me staying home than I am. So for now, we keep making it work (which usually it isn't bad). He's just at one of those times when he's feeling the pressure.

Reply to
Charlotte Hippen

Yea, that had been happening more and more, unfortunately. Like you said though, a nice break and many people come back and perform better making up for lost time and even more sometimes. Would be nice of corporate would realize that. Lucky for most around here (as far as I have seen anyways) that type of mentality hasn't made it here in much of a force yet, with the exception of those farmers with livestock. For some reason they like to be taken care of on a daily basis ; )

Reply to
Charlotte Hippen

That's good news. In order to work with the most efficiency and dedication, sometimes you have to take a break from it.

Reply to
Debi Matlack

Howdy!

Best wishes, Charlotte, for your family vacation and for some job peace for your husband.

My husband has worked in the "car bidness" for 32 yrs. Thank goodness most of it has been in the parts dept., where there's more income regularity and fewer crazy people (car buyers are crazy, we are, we know it, don't deny it: when you go to buy a car you are crazy, you just are , and I mean that in a nice way...mostly). New car sales is tough, erratic, goofy, sometimes fun, seldom "easy." Sales people are on the "front line", the first to be noticed; parts & service are the "back end" people--mostly ignored but this is usually a good thing. [Having seen both sides of it we are esp. good customers when we go out car shopping (Gene just bought a Honda Accord last month, the salesman loves us ).] The car sales industry is going thru' an especially mad time right now, too many cars, too many dealerships, not enough margin for profit for everyone; Detroit (aka American car makers) is insane. Good luck to your husband, to you, and to your family; you'll make it work.

R/Sandy--married to The Grand Poobah of Mercedes-Benz parts; will happily Cruise to a quilt shop near you ;-)

Reply to
Sandy Ellison

There were some pretty slim times for us when the kids were little but I chose to stay home like you are doing Charlotte. I look back and those were some of our best times. We never dealt with the pressure you are dealing with but DH changed his line of work in those years. It was a great decision even though it was tough. In the long run it made a big difference. Any chance there is a more stable route your dh could take for his and your sanity and the long haul? Hugs to you. Taria

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Taria

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