I had a very tense discussion with my mother last night - tense because she called after 10pm and the only thing she said was, "Are you going to be up for a little while so I can call you when I get home?" OK, ever since we got married, my husband and I have had a "no calls after 10pm unless it's an emergency" rule - we got married in
1997 and there are 2 relatives who consistently break this rule....my mother and one of his brothers (his brother can't seem to remember the time difference...they are an hour ahead of us and he keeps getting it mixed up).So, I reminded her of the rule and asked if someone was dying or ill or if she had wrecked her car again (she recently blacked out at the wheel and instead of calling me - THAT would be considered an emergency - she posted on FACEBOOK about it!!!!), she hung up on me.
I called her back and she gave me attitude about my response. I asked what was wrong and she said that she had gotten some news from her doctor. NOW, if she had said, "I have news from the doctor and I want to call you so we can talk about it when I get home" (she was using her OnStar at the time), then there would have been no problem, but that is NOT what she said.
Ok...to make a long story short (and save you all the guilt trip crap she dumped on me), her doctor informed her that she has a growth on the lower right quadrant of her cerebellum, and that is what could be causing a lot of the issues she has been having - vision, low oxygen levels, balance problems, etc. They are doing an MRI with contrast on Friday morning at 8am to determine the size and exact location and to see if they can operate on it.
I told her that I wanted her to call me when she got any information and if/when they decide to do surgery, I will find a way to get up there (even if it means pulling the kids from school and enrolling them locally for a while). In typical Mabel fashion (Mabel was her mother who cried and tried to guilt people into doing whatever she wanted, even knowing full well it wasn't good for her...Mabel was a diabetic who ignored ALL doctors' advice and eventually died from complications of diabetes), she said that I didn't need to be there, not to go out of my way, and then she hung up on me.
Whatever
However, she IS my mother (remember, we can choose our friends, but we can't choose our families) and by HER choice I am an only child. Therefore, yes, I do have to be there if/when she has surgery
So....if you could keep her (and I guess me) in your prayers, it would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks
Larisa, still steaming mad