OT: Upate ( medical advice for IBC)

This is the second time it has happened to Christina, Karen. .

In message , "Karen, Queen of Squishies" writes

I did try to e-mail you, Christina; but even the most recent e-address I have for you did not work. If you do take yourself away from this group, I want to be sure that you stay in touch with some of us, so that you have somewhere to 'explode' when things get just too tough to bear on your own. Many of us have been hurt by thoughtless words, here, but have found that, in time, it is better to be here than away from the warmth of the majority. Please let me know your current e-mail address. You know I would use it appropriately. I am in the Directory. Take care, . In message , Christina in OK writes

Hi Christina, I am sorry you are going through all this stuff. You felt safe enough to share your pain with us, don't leave now. Friends stick through thick and thin. As said in another post, if it says OT you can certainly skip it. Give your decision to leave some further thought. I hope you decide to stay.

I am a 16 year BC survivor. I went through Chemo and Radiation after a lumpectomy. This experience changed me in alot of ways. Not always positive. One thing it did was make me stronger. I no longer take s**t from anybody and their power to intimidate is nil. I also put myself first more often and learned the power of the word "NO".

Linda in Tx

Christina, are you reading our posts? What's going on.....have you gotten medical help? I, for one, care and hope you are in a better situation than when you first posted. Please know you are in my prayers.

Betty in WI

You DO NOT have to wait, Christina. There is financial help out there. Go to the dr. Get the mammogram then worry about paying. We have no insurance and DH has but a part time job. I went ahead with my appt and mammo and they are more than willing to work out a payment plan. Also call the cancer society and see what assistance they can give you.

PS....... please don't leave the group because of one or two people.

On Fri, 21 Jul 2006 08:44:23 -0500, Patti wrote (in article ):

That's a terrible shame. Christina, I really hope you don't leave all of us.

maureen

Howdy!

Best wishes, Christina.

Ya' know, because this is a public forum all kinds of responses & opinions are going to show up, and not all of them will agree... or disagree. Just like in the rest of Life. Pick out the ones you like, hang on to those, go on with your life. Gotta' stop RCTQing? That's your choice. There were many, many supportive notes to you, but if you have to give up that part of it, your choice. Take care. Be well. ((((Christina))))

Ragmop/Sandy--who wouldn't give up diversity and differing opinions, public or private, or the possibility of friendships, either ;-)

Oh dear, I didn't know that. Rats. I wish we could do something to help her more. Don't you sometimes just feel so useless in cyberspace?!?

Karen, Queen of Squishies

Please keep in touch even if by snail mail. You have my email and snail mail adresses. Let us know how things are going. We want to know about your life, your health, your husband's job, your garden, your quilting and those two great kids. The problem with having internet friends is that it is hard to reach out through this machine and touch you like we want. I so wish I could run over with a cool drink and talk this through. Since that isn't possible right now please stay on the group if at all possible.

Susan Price

Dearest Christina-

There are many, many fine, caring, kind, generous quilters here on rctq who are very concerned about you- your health and your living situation. We would be even more concerned- and prolly imagine something awful- if you didn't keep us posted about what is going on. Please stay with us and keep us updated- don't cause that worry to those of us who truly care about you. Just because someone is having a bad day or has their panties in a knot or whatever, please don't feel like the rest of us (the VAST majority of us) are not here/there for you. We are. We care. Please try to get some medical care and think long and hard about your living situation..... and about leaving rctq. {{{{{Christina}}}}}

Leslie

Christ> I Have read all the post,

Absolutely. But, I think mostly we manage to get the help through. Let's hope the kindness reaches Christina. . In message , "Karen, Queen of Squishies" writes

I for one would like to say thank you Christina.

Why???

Because I had never heard of IBC before this. If it was me I would have thought it was a rash and put up with it and not gone to the Dr. but thats just me

Dee in Oz

snipped Christina in OK wrote...:

And as terrible as it is for you to go through it Dee (and my heart is with you), it goes to show that if Christina had not shared, you'd still be in the dark - so to speak Isn't that something we all say when we forward those crappy emails - if it helps one person it's all worth it?

Well this wasn't a crappy email, it was one of our friends and quite frankly, it rankles the bejesus out of me at the way she was treated. We didn't/don't know Christina's home situation, we don't know how many real-life friends she has to share with. Gosh darn it we just don't KNOW - unless we share with people.

other people have had cancer and other illnesses and life problems and shared with us one the group - they've described symptoms and treatments and cures and all sorts of things - just what was it about Christina's post that was so bad?

I for one am honoured that she feels she can share this with us. I for one am grateful that she shared with us - now I know to be aware.

I bet I can safely say that Dee is happy Christina shared all her information.

If the post made you uncomfortable, as others have said, you should have stopped reading when it happened. Perhaps there is an underlying issue that you need to deal with.

I for one, would be quite upset should Christina feel she need to leave the group. As people have said, it is an open forum where you can post what or how or when you like - no moderator but yourself.

I feel the same way as Alice in NJ, we need you here, please don't leave, we love you. Dixie.

When I give to you something I made with my hands I share my heart.

thanks for putting into words what I thought.

{blush} Just sticking up for someone I like who's having a hard time.

Well said, Sharon....!

I sincerely hope Christina doesn't leave the group because the vast majority here (myself included) feel she is a friend; and a friend in need to boot....

-Irene

-------------- You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.=20

--Mae West=20

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Exactly Sharon, well said. I just hate going to the Dr. I went 4 years ago, then since May 23 have been 4 times and go back in 2 weeks and had 2 lots of blood work done. Especially considering my history I should know better :-(

Dee in Oz

Shar> And as terrible as it is for you to go through it Dee (and my heart is with