whether it was teh combined thoughts and prayers of this group, or me finally figuring out that the only thing I can really do now is stay calm, things are seeming to work out.
Grandmother has accepted (though not happily) that she can no longer drive and Mother has both sets of keys ot the car. Nanny is staying with Mother for the week while they try to get doctors appotintments set up.
Yesterday, I took an online tour and an actual walk-through tour of 2 senior facilities. One of them is only 10 minutes away from my house, so I would be able to visit there regularly. I had the 3-way call with my Dad and Stepmom last night and we are all agreed on what we feel needs to be done, and they both are astounded at how much information I was able to get in a matter of hours.
New developments have arisen, such as the attorney who did grandmother's papers being related to one of the families that wants to buy my grandmother's house/land , and various things like that. Dad is my favorite and most trusted attorney, then comes the gentleman who did DHs and my estate planning portfoloi, so, since Dad is involved, I will be making another phone call later today.
Mother was impressed that I would reasearch other options for Nanny, but as I told her, I would rather Nanny was being taken care of by people trained to do the job than by her (Mother) who has her own medical issues that need addressing (not including her choice of living with an active alcoholic).
Things may be headed for a turnaround, but we will see what the result of the Psych eval say - it is possible that not all of the disorientation is merely age, but could be the beginning of Alzheimer's
Thanks again,
Larisa
P.S. On a completely different not, I managed to combine a 6 drawer desser and a 5 drawer dresser into one...the 6 drawer...the second dresser will be going in the baby's room sometime in the next week or so.