I went out to an early dinner with friends of mine, 2 couples who have been married forever, and ran this little scenario by them this evening. Surprisingly the two men were the first to pipe up. "Down right mean, serious control issues and a bully". There were a few other expletives I'll edit. Apparently they think along the same lines as Gen's DH. If he had "wrapped it in disguise", as one of these guys did to his DW's sewing machine last Christmas by putting it in a big table saw box and her diamond earrings in a Dremel box and had her convinced he really wanted to teach her to work in the shop with him because he got so lonely out there all by himself....*snort*....we were all howling about that! But this deal is like putting a meal in front of very hungry person and saying, "you can't eat that, neener, neener, neener." So to sum it up we all agreed that it sucks and is inexcusably mean spirited.
Val