I hope your story has a happy ending. This kind of discovery can be handled in so many different ways. We have a family story going on right now.
My Son in law never met his father because he left before SIL has any memory of him. During his life, he was pretty much given non answers by his mother. Now, at age 27, he managed to locate the man through internet research.
His father is receptive to a relationship, as is his wife. His teenage children are a little more gobsmacked and unsure. Happily, SIL got to meet his father this week. Both related their fear that the other wouldn't show. The father even arranged for a special cake to welcome SIL to the family!!
The real roadblock he hasn't leapt yet is telling his mother. She has all kinds of issues and may be bipolar, so he really isn't planning to tell her unless it becomes absolutely necessary. None of them live in the same cities, so it won't be that hard to keep a secret. His brother is keeping a child a secret from his mother due to these issues.
All in all, it is still a good thing they met no matter their future relationship. My SIL finally feels complete and he got answers to some medical questions. I hope you find the "completeness" with some kind of relationship you can all handle. It doesn't have to be daily face to face relationship, just what you all feel comfortable with. Moni ---- Posted via Pronews.com - Premium Corporate Usenet News Provider ----
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