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I still sit here daily praying for Jessie and wishing things would be different. I've been so depressed lately but I know at least I'm somewhat healthy.

We got the house we bid on. Until yesterday. We have been having odd credit issues for a while now... and we didn't know where half the stuff was coming from and fighting the credit bureaus has been hell. Well now we know. Identity theft. There is another couple living a few hours from here. Same names, same birthdates, same exact information as us. Only this... we have NEVER lived in that area. The police are working on it and it could be years until we can do anything about it. Meanwhile, it looks like we will be forced to declare bankruptcy just to keep our utilities on and above water. Scrapbooking is the last thing on my mind right now, although the only therapy I have. We will have to spend the savings we were using for closing costs (and if we didn't get a house we were going to repair our current place since we still have no heat after 3 years and our floors are falling through, which is why we just wanted to move)... now our lawyers get it... *sigh*

I just wish I knew a local lawyer that could help but we never seem to get a break.

I'm tired.

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bluejean
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I hate being in this "club", but I have been there. A few years ago I wanted a new van. Mine was pushing the 5-yr mark and I was eady to get another. I didn't take this lightly because I LOVED the one I had (Mercury Villager). I looked for 10 months then decided I would get another Villager. I am quite the haggler so I found what I want, researched on the internet then found the vehicle at a dealer here and went in with my figures and what I was willing to offer. They played their games so I got up and walked out. Before I had got a mile away, my cell phone rang. It was the manager and he wanted to deal. I told him I had other things to do and would be in the next day if I was able. I didn't show or call (trying to make them sweat) then the next day I called him back, told him what I was willing to pay and what I wanted for my trade. He said that if I came down then he would see what he could do. I told him that I had been looking for

10 months, already test drove that model and they had already looked at my trade so there was NO reason for me to come in unless they were willing to meet my prices. He said he would call back. He called back pretty quickly and said that he would do it. I made him repeat all the figures then told him I would think about it over the weekend (it was a Friday). I called him back on Monday, had him repeat the figures again, told him to run my credit (I knew it was spotless) and let me know when to come by to sign the papers and trade keys. He called about 2 hours later and said that they were able to get it approved because of my history with Ford Motor Credit (I was 35 at the time and had ONLY driven and financed with Ford). I thought it strange that he had said that since I KNEW I had spotless credit (we've never been even one day late on a bill). When we got there and signed everything, I asked about what he said. He told me that I did indeed have spotless credit, BUT a very high debt ratio. I was stunned. We got copies of our credit reports and found $19,757 in debt that wasn't ours. I was about to faint. My wallet had been stolen in 1993 so we figured this was a fallout from that (it was the year 2000 when this was going on). We started digging about found that a FAMILY MEMBER had done this! It wasn't the stolen wallet at all. The weird/fortunate thing was that they were actually paying the bills. They had figured they were only borrowing our credit rating and by paying on time, we would never know and it wouldn't hurt us! We spoke to our bank and were told that the only thing we could do was to report it to the police, BUT they would end up in jail and it could take years to clear up our credit. She suggested that if the people were paying, maybe it would be better to allow them to continue doing so. We thought about it and let it go. At this point, 3 of the 4 credit cards are paid off and one is still being paid (balance is just below $6,000 right now). I get a "pit" in my stomach every month around the 24th (the day the payment is due) and it stays there until the payment is made.

As for removing things from your credit, we did a re-fi on our current home (only home we've ever owned) and a Federal Tax Lien came up on my credit. We had never even lived in that state. We called the court house, they charged us $2 or $3 (can't remember) and sent us a copy of the tax lien (the numbers were on the credit report so we just gave them that and the Freedom of Information Act allowed us to get it). The people had done a "this is on our credit erroneously" thingy and put it on ours (names are similar). I took it to the mortgage company. He had our current mortgage showing we had lived here all that time so there is no way we could have sold a house while owing taxes in that state, plus we had no history of a mortgage there so it wasn't like we had a rental or anything. He took care of fixing it through the credit bureaus. It took about 3 months. What a pain in the neck! The bank went ahead and approved everything since they had the documents showing that the one bad mark was not true.

I guess I'm trying to say that if you get a good bank guy in your corner, you can avoid all the legal feels. Whatever way you decide to go with this, I wish you the best of luck. Hang onto your sanity as you go through this! It makes you feel horrible, but remember that YOU didn't do anything wrong!!!!

Cecelia

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Cecelia Medbery

I feel for both of you! This happened to one of my brother's sisters in law. She lost her wallet, or had it stolen, and the person first took some of her id to get a new driver''s license and then took the driver's license to get new credit cards. It was hell and taught me a valuable lesson. Every month I now get a report for both my DH and myself that tells us if we've had any changes to our credit reports. At least once a year I get a report for all three of the bureaus for each of us to make sure that things are as they should be at all the bureaus.

It's a pain to have to pay for this, but I consider it just another type of insurance. It won't stop someone from doing it to me, but the faster you catch it, the easier it is to fix, well at least I hope so!

Jean, I am truly sorry to hear that you have had more trouble comming your way. My life was just like that one hit after another, accidents, fires, illeness, death, floods, divorce,and stuck with $40,000 in debt not of my own making by my exDH who did things using my name. It took me years to pay everything off and get back on track. I kept on telling myself that I believed in the law of averages and that eventually I'd have the smoothest life on the planet. Well I still believe in the law of averages. Is life completely smooth? No! But compared to the first 45 this is heavenly bliss! So hang in there and know that there are better times ahead and all isn't bad. You'll get this mess cleared up and life will get better. Hang in there kiddo!

M-C

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M-C

Jean...I am sorry to hear about the aggravation you are having and just keep going...you will get through this. We are all here for you.

Hugs, Sabrina in Kentucky

a good friend is a life long treasure

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Sabrina

I'm sorry to hear about the identity theft Jean. I hope things turn around for you soon.

Teresa in MD

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Tazmadazz

Cecelia, sorry to hear you had a problem too, luckily it worked out for you. I hope you got hold of the family member that used your credit and read them the riot act. Glad yours is working out so well.

Teresa in MD

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Tazmadazz

Thanks... we've talked to a finacial advisor, a lawyer and the police. We will be declaring bankruptcy. *sigh*... the good news... in a year we will be back again somewhat.... lets hope they find something (or should I say someone).....

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bluejean

I hope they do, it is sad that people can do that to someone.

Teresa in MD

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Tazmadazz

Hey there girl!! and poor Martin too!!

So glad to see that you are AT least breathing (you BETTER BE!)> It is getting tobe so bad out there it reall makes you wonder what is safe where anymore!!

4 for 05

OKC Dave

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OKC Dave

well, anymore we are neutered... we tried to rent video's today and open a new account with Hollywood video... we had to close all the CC accounts... no CC no videos.. UGH... we borrowed the neighbors card and got 5 day rentals and are giving them to him to watch tomorrow so win win for both but annoying until this is over... don't EVER give out your SS# and date of birth... ugh....

glad to see ya hon!

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bluejean

Jean sorry so hear to hear about your identity theft. It aggervates me that people go around stealling others identity charging things up in another persons name but the victim if is the one who suffers because it takes so long to get to the bottom of who actually did it. There was a news report not that long ago that said some garbage men (not saying all or if its even so) pick up your trash and take it to a spot to sell to someone for good money and they go through it to get your personal information. After that story we went out and invested in a paper shredder. Things will all work out in time Jean. I know its hard to see that know but it will. Take care.

Chrissy

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MICKEY8886

appreciate that... yeah we know it will work out... but sitting here smelling the neighboring sewage plant... I get so mad I'm still here... I just gotta remember... in time.... and go light another candle.... and a stick of incense... UGH...

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bluejean

thank you all for the well wishes... we know something will happen eventually... Cecelia, I'm so sorry you are part of the "club" too... I just got all my credit reports in the mail yesterday... over half the stuff isn't mine... amazing... it will work out... I know that but I hate that this took a chance at a home from us... UGH... anyhow... God will provide and we will just wait until then.

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bluejean

I hope it works out quickly for you.

Teresa in MD

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Tazmadazz

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