OT: Why does it have to be so hard?

{{{Cec}}} Wish I could say or do something that would make things better.

:::Sending lots of good thoughts your way giving you the strength to deal with everything & for all to be calmer & more peaceful:::

Alicia

Sending thoughts and prayers your way in hopes that things will get better for you. I know what you mean sometimes God loves to test us to no end.

Chrissy

Cec, hang in there. When I went through forster parent training, they told us that there was always a honeymoon period followed by a very difficult testing period during which the child tries everything they can think off to make you send them away. Hopefully that is what is happening and when he feels secure in your love, which I am sure that you are showing him everyday, things will settle down again. Meanwhile I will pray that your patience outlasts his testing and that everything works out the way you want it too soon.

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Hang in there Cec! You're doing a good thing. You're the right thing. Unfortunately, it may not be the easiest thing. Don't let T's behavior keep you from the things you want to do. I took my children lots of places and yes their behavior made me have to step out with them or even go home early. I think it's a good learning experience for all. Hubby and I would tag team. Some times he'd step out with the kid or kids. Grandma stepped up and took my son for a walk when he wasn't being appropriate in a restaurant for my dad's birthday.

Last summer I took my friend's 1 year old daughter out of a museum when she wouldn't stop yelling and let my friend enjoy herself.

I pray that you have friends, family and enough patience to hang in there and raise Tim.

Hugs, Lynne

Hang in there Cec. *BIG hugs!!* Feel free to vent here whenever you need to. Hang in there with T. You and hubby are the right choice for him, whether it seems that way or not. Keep loving him, like I know you are. I know my two kids have phases where they test my patience, and I swear it's on purpose. Hopefully T is just testing you to see how far he can push.

{{{{BIG HUGS}}}} Hang in there! I'll say prayers for you, DH and T. Things will smooth out eventually.

Thanks guys, today was a slight improvement, but I guess any improvement is better than none huh. Yesterday afternoon we had to call the glazier as T smashed one the windows in his bedroom in a rage. My Mum and Dad came around last night to talk to us about the situation (after T had gone to bed). They both said that they'd support us either way, and honestly don't know how we have managed to cope this far. I feel an enormous amount of guilt and cried myself to sleep last night. Again, on my way to work this morning I was listening to the Christian radio station in the car, and had tears streaming down my face as I listened to the morning scripture reader saying how "we choose how we react in any given situation" Everything she was saying was so true. It was by sheer chance that I stumbled accross that station, I usually drive to work in silence, but today obviously someone wanted me to hear this woman speaking. I was better for it.

Thanks again for your support.

I actually managed to scrap a double spread on the night out in the limo last weekend. I'll take pics and load them onto webshots really soon.

Take care, luv Cec...xxx

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Keeping you in our prayers.

Carolyne in Tx

Glad to hear you're doing better today! You'll continue to be in my prayers. Big squishy hugs sent your way!

Hugs and prayers for you Cec.