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Oh Linda. I am so sorry you all are going through this. You are an excellent daughter. I know that it might seem you are not able to do anything for your mom and it must be so very frustrating, but she knows you are there for her, looking out for her, and that is huge. {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Linda and Mom}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

I'm so sorry that you are going through this--that you Mom is going through this. I hate to say this but YOU seem to have much better nursing skill than the supposed pros do at the nursing homes. At least you can tell when she's having pain, needs a diaper change, etc. She might be safer with you. But that's not neccessarily good for YOU. Sarajane

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Oy. I've forwarded your post to a friend of mine who is a nurse practitioner and works with several nursing homes. She may be able to tell you what you can do to report these imbeciles. If you get e-mail from Linda Roberts, that will be her.

Celine (p&e)

vj found this in rec.crafts.beads, from "Linda2" :

]I hate nursing homes, I really do. And the nurse ]who tried to brush off mom's pain is going down. Quickly and with as much ]agony as possible.

I'm with you! Go for it!

[gods, sometimes i really wish Darwin would move faster!]

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's not what you take, when you leave this world behind you;it's what you leave behind you when you go. -- Randy Travis

Jesus H. Christ!! Why are those people giving you and your mom such a damn hard time!! That's incredibly insane. What a crock of &^%$%$#$. I feel for you, sweetie. ((((((((((hugs)))))))))))

*HUGS* to you and your mother!!

-- Margie

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On Tue, 7 Oct 2003 20:09:03 -0400, Kandice Seeber wrote (in message ):

Those are the words I was thinking, only less nice about the nursing home, and with my own support hugs for you, Linda.

Did anyone else get the feeling that some of these nursing homes hire the absolute bottom of the barrel nurses? Some of these people are so callous and horrible that it's almost beyond comprehension. If a person in the medical profession can't even work up the empathy to care properly for a person in pain, they really need to re-think their career choice. And for someone to callously refuse to help someone who is obviously suffering, they really need to re-think their claim to humanity.

Linda, we love you, and hate that you're going through this. What can we do to make life easier for you? Name it, and we'll do our best to come through for you.

Kathy N-V

vj found this in rec.crafts.beads, from Kathy N-V :

]Did anyone else get the feeling that some of these nursing homes hire the ]absolute bottom of the barrel nurses?

there is NO excuse for the kind of care Linda's mother has been receiving [or not receiving]

look at what they're paid! most of the ones in nursing homes are not there because they necessarily want to be. an LVN is not an RN - and [unfortunately] many are run by MDs for profit - not necessarily for quality of care.

it's one reason i left all thoughts of the medical profession behind me YEARS ago. i couldn't handle the arrogance of the MDs behind it all. nurses [at all levels] are some of the most underpaid [college educated] people around. and they're underpaid because of the way the rest of medicine [male-oriented] look down their noses at them.

BLEAH!

[kicking the soapbox back under the desk where it belongs]

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That's probably because they pay absolute bottom of the barrel wages. We are lucky. My MIL is in a good home and we have never had anything to complain about. Most of the staff has been there since she first went in about 3 years ago. This is always a good sign. If you notice a constant turnover in staffing, this is not a good sign.

Barbara G.

Well, just so all that social work training and education I have doesn't go to waste, here is a really handy little tool for screening and comparing nursing homes:

would love to read the info on the place where Linda's mom has been...Especially after Linda gets through ripping them a new one ;-)

Filed a formal complaint with AHCA today.

If you want to check it out, the rathole is called Sunrise Health and Rehab. Believe it or not, they were in the top 81%.

Linda2

On Wed, 8 Oct 2003 21:11:37 -0400, Linda2 wrote (in message ):

That's a terrible score: it means that 19% of homes are even worse than this rathole. But it also means that 80% of homes were better than they are, too.

In Massachusetts we have a scoring system, and anything less than 89% on the tests means that the nursing home is going to evaluated for closing. A score of 81% would have the doors closed that same day, and the residents would be parceled out immediately to safe places.

IIRC, Sunrise is a national chain of nursing homes. To me, a chain afiliation is a bad thing. They're looking for cost savings rather than quality. I've found that the best nursing homes are run by church groups or charities, not as for-profit businesses.

I'll double up my prayers for your mom.

Love, Kathy N-V

vj found this in rec.crafts.beads, from Kathy N-V :

]I've found that the best nursing homes are run by church groups or ]charities, not as for-profit businesses.

seconded!

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I'm glad you are filing complaints--let it be consequences time for all who hurt your mom through their apathy and wilful disregard.

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and Sunrise Medical (if that's the same folks) has been in for much bad publicity and some lawsuits in the last few years.

My MIL is an RN, had her knees and hips replaced in the last few years. She goes to the Eastern Star nursing home near her, run by the Masonic folks. I don;t know if you have one there--I don't think you have to be a Mason to go there. She swears by the care there, and hates the hospital parts that come first. Sarajane

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