Re: Invitation to the next BABE!

Question, though. If one non-shy, assertive person takes the initiative to arrange things (i.e. RCB luncheon *here* at *time* on *day*) and says "come one come all!". Is that enough of an invitation for you, Carol, Tink, other shy people? I can understand feeling left out when specific names are called out in invitation, but is an open invitation sufficient?

(Not pretending I don't know there's sub-stuff going on here, just ignoring that and going off on my own little curiosity-wander.)

Alison

strangely enough, its possible to be both; I am. I'm internally shy, but you'd not know it to see me in action---that ability to meet people got refined when we moved every year or two when I was growing up. But I also didn't learn to be comfortable and familiar.

Sarajane

Sarajane's Polymer Clay Gallery

RCB luncheon *here* at *time* on *day*) and says "come one come all!". Is that enough of an invitation for you, Carol, Tink, other shy people?<

That would certainly work for me!! I just don't think I could manage to be the one taking the initiative, ya know?

Carol in SLC My latest creation (11/12):

I'm in the crowd that likes an invitation too... but.. if any of you find yourself in my little burg you had best consider yourselves invited. Not during nap time of course. lol... Diana

What they said ... although I do find it easier to reach out when I'm on home turf and don't have the anxiety/excitement of finding my way around an unfamiliar city. So if there's ever a bead show in Edmonton, you're all invited :-)

susan in canada

That's perfect!

You mean to say that you are not inviting me Carol.

I reckon I could stay a good 3 months in USA if you all invited me and my bank account could stand it. LOL

Oh wishful thinking. Very big grin Shirley

In article , Carol in SLC writes

We're one province east of Vancouver - but I can highly recommend Vancouver, having lived there twice. Great restaurants, good arts, a public market that's wonderful, a very cool Chinatown, good shopping and great scenery. I go to Vancouver every now and then - might even see if we could meet in Vancouver.

susan in canada

every now and then - might even see if we could meet in Vancouver.<

Sounds like this could be a lot of fun!

Carol in SLC My latest creation (11/12):

which everyone is FORGETTING.<

I don't think anyone is forgetting you or your feelings Sooz. The point I personally wanted to make was that if *I* were the only one excluded from a group of people getting together, *I* would feel hurt, the hostess's health notwithstanding. I don't think anyone expected you to go back to Oakland on Sunday if you were feeling poorly.

Carol in SLC My latest creation (11/12):

you can come to MY house, you are definately invited!!! Sarajane

Sarajane's Polymer Clay Gallery

Sooz, I'm thinking of you NOW. Its very draining to do Big Things even when they are lots of fun. I'm sorry you feel the let- down you are expressing. It happens to me when I do fun things and these days I know to expect it as part of the energy exchange that my body does, and I know it will pass for me.

I hope you feel better soon. Sarajane

Sarajane's Polymer Clay Gallery

Definitely a case of "sensory overload" from looking at so many beads, LOL! Hope you guys have recuperated by now!

Carol in SLC My latest creation (11/12):

Tink, For ISGB, all we have to do is post an open call for RCB'ers on the bulletin board or a notice on the forum that we would like to get together and when. (we can also put RCB on our nametags so we can recognize each other). Patti

In article , Carol in SLC writes

Perhaps we could have some of those group vibes to make them draw our lottery numbers out tomorrow night. VBG Shirley

Cool! I am really looking forward to The Gathering. I bought a t-shirt from last year even though I couldn't go. LOL!

OK, I admit it. I am outgoing and I am not shy. It does make things easier. It allows me to quickly build up an energy with someone that allows me to get to the point of inviting others. Two years ago I invited Sooz to meet me for coffee, and we met at her house instead because of her problems with mobility. It was just a "Let's meet" kind of thing, and I am comfortable doing that with people I hardly know.

I'm also extroverted and can expect to enjoy someone's company, because people energize me.

But even a shy person can usually talk to someone they know from on line and suggest meeting for coffee. That's where things start. That's all it takes. It doesn't take being especially outgoing. Most people have learned the discipline needed to socialize normally. The kind of thing you speak of, Sarajane

I'm not shy and I want to meet people. It's important to me, so I do it. But I do it without firm expectations. Meeting my peers is nice, and it's enough. It's a special bonus if I click especially well.

Other people who are less out-going than I, are much more confident than I am. There are always reason that meeting people is hard. But we all can do it if we want.

Tina