That might work for the more outgoing and confident of us... I have days when I can do that, but just as many days when I'm less able to be that assertive. I hope when Portland rolls around that I'm feeling like the former and not the latter :-)
Question, though. If one non-shy, assertive person takes the initiative to arrange things (i.e. RCB luncheon *here* at *time* on *day*) and says "come one come all!". Is that enough of an invitation for you, Carol, Tink, other shy people? I can understand feeling left out when specific names are called out in invitation, but is an open invitation sufficient?
(Not pretending I don't know there's sub-stuff going on here, just ignoring that and going off on my own little curiosity-wander.)
strangely enough, its possible to be both; I am. I'm internally shy, but you'd not know it to see me in action---that ability to meet people got refined when we moved every year or two when I was growing up. But I also didn't learn to be comfortable and familiar.
I'm in the crowd that likes an invitation too... but.. if any of you find yourself in my little burg you had best consider yourselves invited. Not during nap time of course. lol... Diana
What they said ... although I do find it easier to reach out when I'm on home turf and don't have the anxiety/excitement of finding my way around an unfamiliar city. So if there's ever a bead show in Edmonton, you're all invited :-)
We're one province east of Vancouver - but I can highly recommend Vancouver, having lived there twice. Great restaurants, good arts, a public market that's wonderful, a very cool Chinatown, good shopping and great scenery. I go to Vancouver every now and then - might even see if we could meet in Vancouver.
I don't think anyone is forgetting you or your feelings Sooz. The point I personally wanted to make was that if *I* were the only one excluded from a group of people getting together, *I* would feel hurt, the hostess's health notwithstanding. I don't think anyone expected you to go back to Oakland on Sunday if you were feeling poorly.
Sooz, I'm thinking of you NOW. Its very draining to do Big Things even when they are lots of fun. I'm sorry you feel the let- down you are expressing. It happens to me when I do fun things and these days I know to expect it as part of the energy exchange that my body does, and I know it will pass for me.
Tink, For ISGB, all we have to do is post an open call for RCB'ers on the bulletin board or a notice on the forum that we would like to get together and when. (we can also put RCB on our nametags so we can recognize each other). Patti
OK, I admit it. I am outgoing and I am not shy. It does make things easier. It allows me to quickly build up an energy with someone that allows me to get to the point of inviting others. Two years ago I invited Sooz to meet me for coffee, and we met at her house instead because of her problems with mobility. It was just a "Let's meet" kind of thing, and I am comfortable doing that with people I hardly know.
I'm also extroverted and can expect to enjoy someone's company, because people energize me.
But even a shy person can usually talk to someone they know from on line and suggest meeting for coffee. That's where things start. That's all it takes. It doesn't take being especially outgoing. Most people have learned the discipline needed to socialize normally. The kind of thing you speak of, Sarajane
I'm not shy and I want to meet people. It's important to me, so I do it. But I do it without firm expectations. Meeting my peers is nice, and it's enough. It's a special bonus if I click especially well.
Other people who are less out-going than I, are much more confident than I am. There are always reason that meeting people is hard. But we all can do it if we want.
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