Re: Most Romantic Proposal (LONG)

Tina, thank you for voicing what I was thinking. I hope we're wrong, but it worries me, too...

Deirdre

On Mon, 8 Sep 2003 13:12:42 -0400, Dr. Sooz wrote (in message ):

And my Bob proposed long before we ever dated, in what was quite possibly the

*least* romantic proposal on record. I even got a gumball machine engagement ring (which I still have).

Yes, he replaced the proposal and ring with a romantic proposal and honkin' diamond solitaire about a year later.

If anyone wants to hear the story, just shout.

Kathy N-V

I want to hear the story, of course, but I *really* wanna see the honkin' ring!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If it's any comfort, my partner and I had much the same kind of courtship. He was in Texas, I was in Tennessee, and we'd only been in each other's physical company a handful of times before I moved here. But we'd talked extensively online and on the phone, including making a deliberate effort to expose the parts of ourselves which would *not* be easy to live with. From the outside, it probably did look way too fast -- but it wasn't, really.

Celine

Ya notice how she does this to us???? Of course we want to hear!!!!

Kathy K

"Kathy N-V" wrote

On Mon, 8 Sep 2003 16:41:38 -0400, KDK wrote (in message ):

It's not that. I'm not sure if I've told the stories before, and I don't want to bore anyone.

I'll write up and post the story tonight.

Kathy N-V

You're right it's a wonderful story.

And giving advise and then supporting her is the very best anyone can do. I'm very glad you I didn't offend you. And of course I wish them the very best.

Tina

On Mon, 8 Sep 2003 14:27:09 -0400, Tink wrote (in message ):

The story is slightly offensive, now that we're grown up. At the time, it was an innocuous thing.

Bob and I have been friends since we were children in Junior High school. We were always buds, although we never "went out." Sometimes we'd get together and bitch about the quality of our current dating stock. We went to High School together, and lost track when we went to separate colleges.

After we graduated college, of course we went back to our parental homes, in the town where we grew up, living maybe a mile apart. A couple of months later, on a whim, I was out driving around town to see who was out. (an activity that made a lot of sense when I was twenty, but seems silly now) Suddenly, a little white car cut me off at the light.

Immediately, I rolled down the window of my Honda and started screaming rude epithets about the proportion of humans to animals in the other driver's family tree. The driver of the white car did the same, as is normal for Boston drivers of all ages. Suddenly, I recognized the driver of the other car as my old school chum, Bob. I stopped making rude hand gestures and pulled my Honda over to the side of the road. Bob, of course, did the same thing.

Lo and behold, Bob had been out driving around, also looking to see who was out. Since neither of us had plans (obviously), we decided to drive around together. Since my Honda was held together largely by duct tape and chewed gum, we rode in Bob's sparkling new Dodge Colt. (I should have taken this as a warning sign -- I have a pathological fear of taking loans for anything but a house, Bob always wants shiny new cars. It has caused some bouts of marital friction over the years. We've worked out the problems of being a saver and a spender, respectively.)

As we were driving to get an ice cream, the conversation turned to People We Were Dating. As it turned out, Bob had just ended a painful relationship with some girl who decided getting roses and balloons for her birthday was "too embarrassing," so she threw out the roses and let go of the balloons right in front of him. (Which really was mean, and it represented about a week's worth of his wages at the time) I had also just broken up with a guy who had conveniently neglected to tell me he was married. :-0 All in all, we decided that frankly, the dating pool sucked.

Suddenly Bob said, "Ya know, Kath - we've always gotten along pretty well. Hows about if we haven't found the right one by the time we're thirty, we can marry each other? We're friends, it could work. And that way, no one will think we're gay."

Never having been concerned in the least that people would think I was gay, I said, "Sure, why not?" (I assume Bob had more fears in this department than I ever did)

To seal the deal, Bob stopped at Osco Drug and bought me a ring from the gumball machine. It was stamped metal, gold colored, had a smiley face cut out of it, and turned my finger green pretty much immediately. I still have it. It stays in my hope chest, which was a gift from Bob during our first Christmas together.

A few months later, Bob and I started going out, and our "getting married timetable" accelerated greatly. We were married when we were 25 - long before anyone thought we were gay.

A cursory search for the digital camera has proven fruitless, so you're just going to have to wait for the picture of the diamond solitaire, Tink.

Kathy N-V

P.S.: Bob now tells the story without the gay part. Even he's embarrassed by his cro-magnon tendencies back then.

vj found this in rec.crafts.beads, from Kathy N-V :

]To seal the deal, Bob stopped at Osco Drug and bought me a ring from the ]gumball machine. It was stamped metal, gold colored, had a smiley face cut ]out of it, and turned my finger green pretty much immediately. I still have ]it. It stays in my hope chest, which was a gift from Bob during our first ]Christmas together.

that's really SWEET!

----------- @vicki [SnuggleWench] (Books)

's not what you take, when you leave this world behind you;it's what you leave behind you when you go. -- Randy Travis

an innocuous thing. <

Kathy, this is definitely my all-time favorite story of yours (at least, so far, LOL)!! I'm glad you still have your first "engagement ring!"

Carol in SLC New pic (9/5):

What a cute and sweet story.

Starlia

embarrassed

Hmm... Mine said: "Do you want to get this over with?" Was yours less romantic than that? Kaytee "Simplexities" on

Mine was..." Well it is bound to happen.... and your med insurance is running out..."

HOW ROMANTIC!!!

I've always dreamed of a totally romantic proposal... One knee and all that... *sigh* Do y'all think it's too late for me?

Not at all.. :)

I told hubby that he had to ask me to marry him for our 10 year anniversary!

Mine moved into my apartment in Alaska while I was in Texas after my grandfather died. When I got home I consulted a lawyer since my ex was a major PITA. He said either be married or don't have him there. So we got married three days later after one of my friends convinced me that he was good for me.

Really romantic, huh? He's been the best husband ever.

N-V

vj found this in rec.crafts.beads, from "Tink" :

]I've always dreamed of a totally romantic proposal... One knee and all ]that... *sigh* Do y'all think it's too late for me?

no. probably not. but don't mess with success, lady!

----------- @vicki [SnuggleWench] (Books)

's not what you take, when you leave this world behind you;it's what you leave behind you when you go. -- Randy Travis

On Tue, 9 Sep 2003 0:28:00 -0400, Kaytee wrote (in message ):

Yes.

I posted the story tonight, but basically Bob asked me to marry him so that no one would think we were gay.

He's feeling much better now.

Kathy N-V

Truer words were never spoken.

And how did you know about the cat?????

*g*