LNS in Alabamastan

It's all those statistics and demographics, etc., I should imagine. So much of any society is putting everyone in the proper pigeonhole and the Net isn't really any different. Well, not necessarily the Net but corporations and all sorts of businesses. They need to know how many of each subset have signed up or signed in or signed on or bought something....... CiaoMeow >^;;^<

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You must be more placid than me (I) lolol RDH

Splat--gotcha--=--Hardly! But I figure why sweat the small stuff.

I guess I haven't noticed that particular phrase being over-used these days. That was "Valley girl"-speak about 15 years ago (Hahahaha! Just looked up her employment record and it was *27* years ago!!!! Yikes!). Which was when I had a student worker who spoke like that. I had been teasing her about her use of "like" every 2 seconds and she refused to believe she did it. When she was on the phone one day, I was nearby and said "like" every time she did. When she hung up, she said, "Boy, I really *do* say that a lot, don't I?" LOL!

My, time flies!

Joan

Well, let's see...just off the top of my head there's: Kim (although you don't see that much for boys, anymore) Tracy Jaden Gail Jesse Bobbie/y Casey

There are actually quite a few.

Joan

Some times I'd much prefer M'am, especially wait staff at a nicer restaurant. You guys or Folks just lowers the tone.

Cheryl

It's not a binary choice. What's wrong with "Is everything alright?" or "May I get you anything else?" No address needed.

Elizabeeth

Imho, it may be acceptable, but using "guys" to refer to a mixed group strikes me as dismissive of any women in said group. I'm more inclined to use gender-neutral terms like "folks", etc.

"flitterbit" wrote

When I was in grad school, one of the department members mentioned how readily I had been accepted as one of the guys. My mentor pointed out to him that at our first meeting, it had been clear to him that I was not a guy. I agree with you!

Dawne

Your mentor is a wise person! An awful lot of people seem to think women should be flattered by being thought of as "one of the guys", as though it were the height of achievement.

Sorry, I don't think I agree. If DD and I are out to dinner, I'd prefer both of us to addressed separately - as M'am and Miss. Or as it happens at her favorite Mexican place - Senora and Senorita

Cheryl

I never wanted to be thought of as one of the guys and would get my back up if someone referred to me as a guy, or for that matter a gal, and never ever "my girl." I also always thought when someone called me hon or dearie, it was because they couldn't remember my name. No need to use Ms or Mrs. and I prefer that it not be used, but guys was different.

When someone called out hey guys-do it this way, I thought of it as generic. Maybe where you come from makes the difference. In my neighborhood it was just a way to address a group and wasn't gender specific.

Lucille

I don't think you have to agree. You like it, that' s ok. I can still hate it. I especially hate the Ma'am/Miss split. It's one thing to distinguish between an older and a younger woman, but it is technically supposed to distinguish between a married and an unmarried woman and I hate that.

Elizabeth

I don't think you have to agree. You like it, that' s ok. I can still hate it. I especially hate the Ma'am/Miss split. It's one thing to distinguish between an older and a younger woman, but it is technically supposed to distinguish between a married and an unmarried woman and I hate that.

Indeed. If a friend and I are just trying to find out how big the house salad is, what does our marital status have to do with it??

Imagine a server trying to decide whether to Ma'am or Miss my football team when we are out together, all women whose ages range from teen to fifties, includes me and DD, several women who are married, some of whom are Mrs. and some of whom aren't, and at least one same sex couple.

Dawme

Somebody gets it hurrah, hurrah, hurrah !

But, but, but, if the server is looking at you, she/he is addressing you, not the person next to you.

But you have to ask, why did 'guys' become the honorific ? The men certainly don't want someone calling a group of men "Hey you girls/gals" - so then it looks a little different. I don't feel honoured to be included in the guys.

Yes because we know it dates from the era of the 'spinster'

There must be a strange miasma blowing up from ND to Saskatchewan. We have Joan confused and now Dawme.