You mean Karen that you only do things , to get something back for it? how odd , i thought life , human cultured life is mainly about sharing , Since we all got so much from the generations before us !! it is only natural to share waht we have with others.
mirjam
That's been my policy, too. But it's often been said, "we make time for the things that are important to us". I am only important to the people who call me their Best Friend when they want something from me; when I need something from them, they don't know who I am.
Viz., someone who swore that we'd be best friends forever, because I did so many nice things for her, listened to her endlessly when she needed advice, bought her lunch when she was broke, etc. When things changed and I was the one who asked *her* to bring some take-out over after work, I didn't hear a peep from her for 5 years. Not one phone call, and only a birthday or Christmas card with a one-line note "we'll be friends forever". She was always "too busy" to call me, but found plenty of time to chat with other friends who weren't going to ask her to go a few blocks out of her way to pick up a $4 container of soup. Until she was getting married and wanted a present. I did go to the wedding and gave her something inexpensive (not the 200-hour stitchery she'd hinted for years she wanted from me), and in the 3 years since, have received one thank you note for the shower gift, one Christmas photocard, and a one-line e-mail thanking me for letting her know about a serious accident involving a mutual friend. I don't expect to hear from her again until it's baby shower time, when I will be expected to produce the time-consuming layette that she saw me knitting for someone else.
When I commented on this to a mutual friend (one who has two kids, multiple pets, a huge house to clean and a time-consuming home business, and therefore knows I won't ask her for help because her plate is already overfull), she confirmed my suspicion, that X hadn't called me after hearing I was getting divorced, because X knew how much of my time and sympathy she had demanded when she broke up, and was afraid that I'd make the same amount of demands on her. Z told her that her fears were unfounded, I wasn't depressed over the divorce, I was thrilled and doing interesting things with my life, and X wouldn't listen to facts. She knew this is the way she was, and was positive that everyone would be the same way.
The same applies to my being ill. X knows that if she were diagnosed with something incurable, she'd be a whiny demanding little brat wanting someone to wait on her hand and foot, and can't conceive of it that I might just want someone to come over and watch a movie to take my mind OFF my problems. Z has reassured her repeatedly that when we go to lunch once a year to celebrate our birthdays, I talk about other things besides my health, but she refuses to believe that I don't act the way that she would. I can't possibly have anything to say about current events, books I've read, new movies that look interesting, because if she were this sick, she'd spend her whole life crying and want nothing doing with the outside world that's going on and leaving her behind. (Yes, I'm sure she would. If she didn't just shoot herself upon getting the diagnosis. But I'm not her.)
Never had any complaints from my clients about my comma usage. In fact, one of them regularly called to complain she didn't think I'd used enough.
And that's who I have to please -- not you, who cannot use apostrophes correctly.
Hey - hey - hey! stop being so bloody childish, do! You just left out Neen-ner, nee-ner to make it complete! :-))
Pat P!
Usually - but sometimes you get nice surprises and sometimes not so nice! Carolyn was even nicer than I thought - felt I`d known her for YEARS!
Pat P
"Mirjam Bruck-Cohen" wrote>.
Don't you find that people are pretty much as you expect them to be???? Dawne
I heard differently from someone you did a job for. It was unusable, which is what the person said. Had to be changed so many times, it almost went into the dumper.
But I am playing violins too.
As for my usage of apostrophes, I'm just a dumbo, never made any claims such as you have made. Me thinks the lady doth protest too much.
Really? Then you must have talked to the one jerk who told me my work was unusable solely so he wouldn't have to pay me. He was a problem client and I was glad to be rid of him -- the non-corrupted files were all back to him before the deadline, but he couldn't stand not being my top priority. I wouldn't drop my best client's rush project to put him first, and he had serious issues with that, so he gave me an impossible deadline.
When all the non-corrupted files were back to him before the deadline he was sure I couldn't meet, he had to think up some other reason. A reason that would require a judge to spend hours comparing documents was as good as any.
He apparently makes a habit of paying writers and editors the first time and refusing to pay the second time, so I wouldn't believe anything that deadbeat says about the quality of my work, because I'm not the only person he's lied about.
He also refused to pay the geek who verified that I couldn't open a few of the files because they were corrupted. But by then I had already decided I wasn't dealing with this jerk any more and delegated those files to someone else. Maybe it's HER work he didn't like.
Methinks someone using Texas RoadRunner doth protest too much, VICTORIA.
I very much doubt that it`s Victoria!
Pat P
Why?? Gill
Not to stir the pot (and I have no ill will toward Victoria), but Jangchub IS a Tibetan/Buddhist name.
Jinx
It is 8 miles each way, but my muscles are getting pretty strong now after 2 mos of it. I stood for about 13 hrs total today, and on Saturdays the store is non-stop with customers. Helps the time pass at least.
Not sure why that person is making a big deal of the sprained ankle, I said from beginning it was a mild sprain, more the icing on the cake of a bad day then a major problem. I'm seriously doubting that person's whole polka story happened outside of her 20's when we all healed a lot faster than we do in our 40's and onwards. Hell, in my 20's I managed to sprain an ankle while in my 3rd trimester with my oldest child, and still manged to work on my feet the next day. Ain't no big deal at that age!
Caryn
Get off it, you've said here more than once that you don't even try to be friendly with people in your neighborhood because you assume they will only want something from you.
But hey, thanks for making this all about Poor Poor Karen again! WTG!
Caryn
Why would it matter if whoever it is hit the nail on the head?
At least she was willing to admit to making mistakes, as opposed to blaming others when confronted with one.
Caryn
Why ... has she gone to Tibet?
Good morning [here] and probably night [at your side] Dawne , Ialways expect people to be nice , and i am willing to be disappointed about this expectation, and still hope that people would be nice, I only stop expecting it from those [Few] who have disappointed me SEVERAL times.
mirjam
Check the headers. Texas Road Runner is Victoria's ISP, and the nasty tone and claiming that she's talked to one of my clients and gotten negative information is her standard M.O. How did anyone get the name of this client to talk to him? I never mentioned it here.
Well, you have now!
Pat P
No, it was not a man, and it was actually someone who used to post here quite frequently.
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