Hi Everyone,
This is part bitch fest part Yippee fest.
The yippe fest:
After several hard working months on MY PART, I managed to secure for larry and me a fixed rate 30 year mortgage for a co-op which I really thought would never ever happen but the stubbornness in me paid off -- including not buying any scrapbooking supplies (everyone's generosity here was amazing).
So now in 2008 we can formally put down an offer somewhere and call it ours, which means we can get a 2 bedroom somewhere here in the boroughs.
I asked for help from DH but it never materialized. At this point I think he'll probably move in but that's about it.
Now for the bitch fest.
I worked my a** off to try and secure this mortgage and I'm truly proud of my self. Because I was sick it kind of ate into our downpayment savings account. I remembered that Grandpa Palmeri gave Larry (and to my surprise me) two bags of USC coins going back to 1935 all silver. So I thought I'd see how much they go for on the open market. My mother-in-law hit the roof. I came upstairs from the basement, knocked on their door, and said hello. My mother in law in typical fashion didn't hear me and said "now is not a good time for a shower." HUH?
I asked my Father In Law where were the coins because I wanted to see them. my mother in law said why don't you sell some of your stuff and stop selling larrys. You don't need your great grandmother's curio cabinet or any of your craft stuff. My father in law said I think they are in the safe, i'll get them.
My mother in law starts lecturing me about budgets and stuff and since I really didn't want to get into it I unfortunately said "if I wanted to get lectured about finances I'll call MY mother and since she trusts me to do the budget correctly like I have been for 20 years by myself, i don't need your help." I wasn't asking for a hand out but I had totally forgotten about the coins and was curious. they only retail about $750 if that. Everyone is now furious at me that i would "sell grandpa's coins." Honestly I'd rather have Grandpa here alive and well than his damn coins. Hell larry has stock grandpa gave him so does that mean we can't sell the stock because they were grandpas? If I didn't think we needed the furniture it would be the first to go. PS anyone need a new fridge from sears?
Under her breath which I ignored was "instead of going through the coins you should be cleaning downstairs, its such a mess." My father in law ripped her apart for that one. Most of the crap down here is recycling from Christmas that Larry hasn't sorted out or actually walked out with.
I've cleaned the best I can but where the hell would she like me to put Larry's never ending clothes? My never ending towels? Half the crap down here is theirs not mine.
I am listing a few things on eBay but why does it always have to fall on my shoulders to figure out how the heck we are going to save. If I squeese any more dimes nickles or quarters out of the budget they well scream. We never go to the movies. hardly go out to dinner. A luxury is going to Elizabeths. I give up.
So I'm being a taurean stubborn person and am not talking to my mother in law. Larry gets grunts.
Am i nuts or justified in being a little angry. Elizabeth said it's because i wasn't getting the "good for you guys, you must be excited" response I wanted (which she gave us because she has been such a big help.)
Thanks for letting me vent. not the way i wanted to start 2008.
I did manage to do one layout.
xoxox Kate