Just wanted to let everyone know that even though I've been in and out I'm more out than not. I've been sick for what seems like weeks now. I went back to the doctor today and my bronchitis is worse. (he of course gave me more meds) Hopefully the stuff in my chest will start to break loose.
I have been neglectful to my friends, it happens this time of the year. I had something very traumatic happen just after Christmas 13 years ago and it still haunts me to this day. I go into a depression around the holidays and since I married my wonderful DH it gets less and less every year. I am sorry I've been out of touch, literally and figuratively.
We did get some wonderful news last week. My DH has wanted to adopt my 2 DS for a long time now so we hired an adoption attorney when school got out for the summer. I had contacted my ex to get his permission. After giving him some time to think about it he agreed, "just send the papers and I'll sign". So after spending an arm and a leg, he delayed. After many phone calls to him, offering to pay the $10 for the notary, some hurtful things said DH and I decided to call it a wash. The boys were terribly upset, they had hoped to start the new school year with DH last name. DH was upset, even though he denied it I could tell he was disappointed. (though to his credit he never said anything unkind about the ex when the kids were in hearing (usually said in the car or while they were at school). ) We explained to the boys that he must have changed his mind, and that was okay, if they still wanted Alan's last name then as they turned 18 he would adopt them, it would just be 1 at a time instead of together. We were very frustrated over the fact that once again he failed to do something he agreed to and it hurt the boys so much and all the money spent on the attorney for nothing, called him many names when no one was around. DH shed a few tears (he was so upset), I shed many, how could he not sign the papers after all he'd only seen the boys 4 times in the past 13 1/2 years, paid child support when the mood struck him. DH got a phone call last Sunday @ work, it was the adoption attorney. She had been going through her mail and ex had signed the papers!!!! So on Monday (last Monday) we rounded the boys up and each of us had to sign papers agreeing to the adoption. We have to wait 10 days after the papers are signed so the earliest court date we could get is Jan. 24th!! The boys are sooooo excited!!! I've cried many times, DS#1 has ordered a new name tag for his ROTC uniform, DS #2 has told all his friends.
As M-C said to me, miracles do happen and now I'll have a very happy memory for the holidays and maybe that will help fade the bad memories. (and it has helped tremdously, thanks for the wise words M-C, hugs)
Anyway, sorry this is so long, just wanted to share my happiness with my friends here at RCS.