OT: in and out and adoption

Kenda · 2004-12-21T01:34:01+00:00

Just wanted to let everyone know that even though I've been in and out I'm more out than not. I've been sick for what seems like weeks now. I went back to the doctor today and my bronchitis is worse. (he of course gave me more meds) Hopefully the stuff in my chest will start to break loose. I have been neglectful to my friends, it happens this time of the year. I had something very traumatic happen just after Christmas 13 years ago and it still haunts me to this day. I go into a depression around the holidays and since I married my wonderful DH it gets less and less every year. I am sorry I've been out of touch, literally and figuratively. We did get some wonderful news last week. My DH has wanted to adopt my 2 DS for a long time now so we hired an adoption attorney when school got out for the summer. I had contacted my ex to get his permission. After giving him some time to think about it he agreed, "just send the papers and I'll sign". So after spending an arm and a leg, he delayed. After many phone calls to him, offering to pay the $10 for the notary, some hurtful things said DH and I decided to call it a wash. The boys were terribly upset, they had hoped to start the new school year with DH last name. DH was upset, even though he denied it I could tell he was disappointed. (though to his credit he never said anything unkind about the ex when the kids were in hearing (usually said in the car or while they were at school). ) We explained to the boys that he must have changed his mind, and that was okay, if they still wanted Alan's last name then as they turned 18 he would adopt them, it would just be 1 at a time instead of together. We were very frustrated over the fact that once again he failed to do something he agreed to and it hurt the boys so much and all the money spent on the attorney for nothing, called him many names when no one was around. DH shed a few tears (he was so upset), I shed many, how could he not sign the papers after all he'd...

Dec 21, 2004 42 Replies

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JK 21 years ago

Oh Kenda! I'm so happy things worked out for you guys! This will really be a happy Christmas memory for the future :)) Hope the bronchitis is something of the past soon aswell!

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