OT: Lost my Mother today

Sandy · 2005-11-16T01:56:59+00:00

I'm sitting here at the computer still in a daze. My Mom has been at the nursing home for the past two weeks for physical therapy because of a mild stroke. I was down there Sunday, but didn't go yesterday as I had to get ready for the program I was doing at school this morning. They called me this afternoon and said to get there right away that she went out and they were tring to revive her and had called 911. I'm only a few blocks away, but she was gone before I got there. They said she had been in great spirits all morning and had even helped lead songs and talk to the other residents during the tornado warning while they were out in the hallway for safety. She told one of the nurses this afternoon she must have been more upset about the weather than she thought because she felt like she was having an anxiety also said she couldn't wait for me to come by tonight to let her know how the program went. Then she just closed her eyes and was gone. They think it was a heart attack. I just a little while ago was able to reach the last sibling. My oldest sister is here, and was with me today, but I had to call the others - those were the hardest 7 phonecalls I think I've ever had to make. I think I just need to go to bed now. Sandy

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Dorothy 20 years ago

Sandy, My deepest sympathies are with you and your family. You and your family will be in my thought and prayers. I am sure you know that She is with the Good Lord now and singing up a storm.

God Bless you all, Dorothy in NY

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Jessica 20 years ago

Oh Sandy! I am soooo sorry to hear that, it's always so hard to lose someone.

My thoughts are with you,

Jessica

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christina.miller 20 years ago

I am so sorry Sandy. There aren't any words I can express to show my sympathies. I will pray for you and your family for healing. Your mother is in a much better place. Jesus loves you and your family and is always a prayer away.

Love, Christina

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CGSMom3 20 years ago

Sandy,

Know my thoughts and prayers are with you. I was 10 when my mom died and I still mourn her nearly 26 years later. My FIL passed away earlier this year and so we're dealing with that first year grief and now the holidays. Know we're here to lend an ear if we can at all.

Susan

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shannon 20 years ago

Oh Sandy, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. It sounds like your mother was a wonderful person and loved you all dearly. I will be thinking of you and your family. I lost my father 3 years ago. It is still very hard sometimes. I will be watching tv and just start crying because something reminded me of him. Take care!!

Hugs!!

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JK 20 years ago

Oh Sandy, I'm so terribly sorry to hear this :(( I'm saying prayers for you and the family for strength in this very difficult time.

Judy, SA

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Cathy 20 years ago

Oh Sandy I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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a-scrapbooking-diva 20 years ago

Sandy,

I'm so sorry. Although she didn't suffer, I sure wish you and your family warm prayers to get through this time of pain.

xoxoxox Kate

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AScott 20 years ago

Oh Sandy, I am so very sorry to hear this! You are in our thoughts and prayers!

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Sandy 20 years ago

Thank you all for your thoughts, prayers, e-mails and emotional support. It has been a rough week. I thought I could go to my monthly crop on Saturday and get a little rest, but ended up leaving early. I was so glad my oldest DD came with me. It did help a lot. I'm going to my sister's this afternoon to help her go through some of Mom's things. It's especially hard on my sister as Mom lived with her. They (siblings) have finally decided to hold the graveside services and funeral mass on Dec. 3rd. I tried to get them to set the date earlier as they wanted to wait until the 17th of Dec. I didn't want my children go have to go through this again, Christmas will be hard for us as it is. They finally agreed. Our local paper only comes out once a week so I had the obit put in the larger newspaper in the next town - so many people in our area get it too. They printed it wrong, giving the graveside services for this past Sat at 10 am. I had so many phonecalls and my sister had to go out to the cemetery and explaint to people who came. I'm going to call on monday and complain - especialy as we had to pay for the obit in the first place. I want to give special thanks to those of you who sent us cards. They were greatly appreciated (and so pretty). I will have them on display on the 3rd after the services at the church. Gratefully yours, Sandy

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Trish 20 years ago

Oh Sandy! How sad & so sudden. My prayers are with you all.

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Chrissy 20 years ago

I am so sorry to hear of your lost. You need to chat I'm here for you.

Chrissy

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Mel K 20 years ago

I've been out of town for a few days and just saw this...

Sandy, I'm so sorry to hear about your mother. My heart goes out to you and your family. I lost my mother three years ago, and it still hurts. May the Lord be with you and your family, and help you get through this difficult time. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Take care.

Mel K

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Amy in Springboro 20 years ago

Sandy - I am so sorry. My throughts and prayers are with you and your family. I hope you find peace.

I've lost my Dad and my Grandmother. Both declined so gradually that at the end, I found peace that they could rest. Mom's are somehow different. I'm crying for you Sandy.

-- Amy L.

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Sandy 20 years ago

Thank you. They delivered the urn to me today. I wasn't sure how I would handle that as this is the first cremation in our family. It was fine. I'm going down to my sister's again tonight to go through a couple more totes. Mom was packed in totes that had been in storage when she moved out of her house into my sister's about 4 years ago. We closed the storage building last year and moved all of the totes to a huge walk-in storage room at the house. Some of these totes Mom had not even been in for years. She had just moved them with her.as she went. Sandy

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