OFF TOPIC - mystery solved

I once went for weeks without cooking. On my way to work, I'd stop at Safeway and buy two TV dinners. Had one for lunch at work, and then had the other for dinner before leaving the office, so I wasn't hungry when I got home. Made the same point, but I didn't starve doing it.

I must be strange, I feel weird about my husband cooking in "my" kitchen.

My 2nd week of work, he got home before me and started to cook dinner, and I ended up feeling all out of sorts over it. He can cook just fine, but since I'd been the stay at home mom, chief cook and bottle washer for so long it felt like he'd invaded my turf! lol

Caryn

Looks like it was actually good for BOTH of you. John`s been doing all the cooking for the past 14 years because he HAD to (just as well he`d retired) and now he doesn`t like it if I do things in "his" kitchen. He says, probably quite rightly, that I make too much mess and he can`t find anything!

Don`t, for goodness sake, discourage him!

Pat P

Yeah - you're a bit strange. :-)) I'd gladly hand over the kitchen to my husband any time - I know I'd never find anything again, but what a treat it would be to come home some time and have supper - no matter what it was - on the table. In my dreams!!!!!!

Sharon (N.B.) ...............................................................

Smart girl. Did it teach him a lesson tho' - or did you revert back to doing it all once you got tired of tv dinners? :-)) I do get a bit of a guilt trip tho' if I do it too often - cuz I know how much my husband enjoys homemade food - and lots of it ... maybe it's a woman thing, this guilt trip???

Shar>

LOL! It was never in doubt that I was strange, but then I like being different!

I never minded him cooking when we were first married, and both working full time, but after 12 yrs of it being "my" kitchen it felt wrong for him to be in it. I'm sure I'd get over it with repeated attempts on his part!

Caryn

Thanks for the hugs, and yes I still miss Jill. However, I firmly believe that if I *was* the right type of husband, it was because she was able to teach me what to do. Basicly, I was extremely lucky to find Jill for my wife; not the other way round.

Slightly worse was when my mother turned 25, I was 4. What made it worse was Dad saw it coming, and kept prompting me on his *age*. And we lived in an apartment building, so you imagine the opportunities an elevator offers a talkative 4 yo.

Not only did I tell everyone that my mom was 25, but that my dad was

1. And since my dad was fairly hands on parent for his generation, I'd probably told the story about half a dozen times out her earshot before she even knew. The first time she heard it, I had the timing down way too pat for her not to know the guilty party. :-)

Tara

Lucky you, Blue leaves me a detailed map to the grocery store if he's going to be gone more than a few days. :-) He hasn't yet figured I travel the opposite direction and get something from M&M meats (nice sales people, shorter aisles).

Tara

After being the stay at home mom for years and having supper on the table when my ex came home then marrying my now DH and sharing the kitchen I can understand your unsettled mind. Mine is/was as well. (No - being in charge of the house and cooking was not the reason for the divorce, I like to cook)

My now VDH learned to cook cause he had to, keeping his own house. What a change it was to have a husband who knew how do laundry, dust and cook. He also cooks differently than I, I use a recipe or my experience, he uses a box and adds a bunch to it. His mac & cheese with Spam is yummy, He adds tomatoes, peppers, onions, mushrooms and it's a very nutritious and low calorie meal with leftovers for tomorrow.

I always had the attitude that who made the mess cleaned it up. DH cleans up as he cooks, but that's all he likes to do. I willingly finish cleaning up the plates and cook pot. And I cook only about a third of the time. Took quite a while to accept the feeling of a shared kitchen instead of 'mine' .

He doesen't want to stitch though, but lets me buy all that I can fit into this RV.

Barbara T

I also like to cook, but there's something about getting home from work at 6:15 PM (or later) and having to deal with someone whining about having to wait a few more minutes for dinner that can make you snap. You want dinner at 6, you can fix it yourself, since you're not doing anything else useful while I'm at work.

If he wasn't willing to get off the couch to at least start dinner, then I wasn't willing to dash into the kitchen and race through the fastest (not healthiest or cheapest) dinner prep possible after working 8 hours, spending an hour on a bus and walking ~2 miles because the bus nearest the house left the transfer point before my bus arrived, and walking was faster than waiting almost an hour for the next one. I wanted time to at least take off my shoes and my suit before starting to cook, and I wasn't going to be allowed that because he wanted his dinner at 6, even if I didn't get home till 6:15.

We know you're strange, and Dude has nothing to do with it! Glad to see you back on, girlfriend!

And she let him live? lol

I work in a store where I'm old enough to be my manager's mother (if I'd had a child at 18), and I love it when a teenaged customer is shocked that I actually play the video games we sell. I know that men/boys are more likely to play the things, but the shock on these kids' faces is priceless when they hear I do too.

Caryn

This was shared with me by my "geek" daughter. We kid her that she's really a 15 y.o. boy at heart.

Snicker - yup that about describes the most popular gifts at last night's hockey party.

LOL. But it does provide for some interesting stories years down the road. :-)

I figured as much. :-) It's weird, I'm old enough to be a granny, yet still feel to young to be a mother.

Tara

The person who stays home SHOULD be the one who gets the meal together! Unless that person is a 'work-at-home" person, then the meal prep should be a joint affair! JMNSHO

Barbara T