Way OT: DS's wedding, for those interested

Okay, okay, y'all can stop pestering me now! :)

The rehearsal and rehearsal dinner went well. Very informal, had sub sandwiches, veggie tray, potato salad and strawberries & whipped cream on angel food cake.

The wedding was scheduled to be held at DS's house. Bret had worked all spring and summer getting the yard and house worked on in preparation for The Big Event. Alas, Mother Nature intervened. It poured at his house that morning and one of the groomsmen said they had trouble getting their trucks out of the yard. Luckily, we had a Plan B, which was to get married at our small, rural church.

Picture-taking was supposed to be in a park but then we had to look for someplace with a roof. We moved it to a gazebo in town and just as we got there it quit raining. I got some nice pics there (hope to get some posted this week, will let you know when they're up) and then we all moved to the church.

DS's wedding was, in one word: short. Took all of 17 minutes. It was very nice, though. They did something I'd never heard of: a sand ceremony. Rather than a unity candle, they had sand in their colors (pink & green) and poured them together into a vase, the idea being they are joining their sand/lives and it would now be very hard to separate the two. The vase will be sealed with wax.

There were just enough guests to fill our little church.

They also had a balloon release following the service, which was nice. The weather by this time was beautiful and we were able to take the family pictures in the churchyard.

The reception was good and they had a really good DJ, who played a nice mix so there was someone dancing the whole time. They used small cakes as centerpieces for each table, all made and decorated by her mother! She said she's not going to make another cake for a looooooooong time! lol

As they say, "A good time was had by all". :)

They didn't go on a honeymoon. They are going to try finish their house, first.

I'm now a MIL! :)

Joan

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Joan E.
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Those sound pretty trivial went wrong things - they'll be able to smile about it. Are you an EMIl or merely a MIL - remembering what Gillian used to call hers lol

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lucretia borgia

Sounds like a great day...

C
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Cheryl Isaak

It sounds as if the wedding went off well......it is good to have a contingency plan, just can't trust the weather these days.I am happy for the toung couple, and wish them a lifetime of happiness.

AND, Sheena, there is no way Joan could be an EMIL; that took a specific personality, and much practice. Our friend is too nice for that.

Gill

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kc5ten

It sounds like a great day and really nice, despite the necessary weather related changes. I'm looking forward to seeing the pictures of the happy family.

For sure it sounds better then my niece's wedding on the beach at Malibu. Do not believe it when they say it never runs in southern California. It poured rain so hard that they had to move the ceremony to the back of the filthy, dirty truck that had delivered the chairs that were put on the sand for the guests. Through the whole ceremony my nephew's mother was muttering over and over, for this I bought designer shoes. Despite that a happy time was had by all the so far their marriage is surviving.

I'm certain you could never be an EMIL. That takes years of practice and you're much too busy to spend your time foolishly.

Lucille

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Lucille

*snip*

Congrats - sounds great - regardless of the little things. Even the best laid plans can't be counted upon. The important things went well - they're happy, and married.

So, try to be a good MIL ;^)

ellice

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ellice

Yes, all-in-all it went pretty well.

Oh, please! I certainly *hope* not! lol

Joan

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Joan E.

Thanks, I will pass them along.

Gee, thanks, Gill!

Joan

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Joan E.

Now come on Gillian, you know my warped sense of humour -

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lucretia borgia

Joan you DO know I think the same don't you ? I only said that when I saw the MIL, it made me think of all the times Gillian wrote EMIL.

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lucretia borgia

Definitely!

I will. From my point of view, over the last 50+ years of watching my parents being in-laws, I think the thing to do is to stay out of their (DS & DIL) business unless asked! :) But then, I've always been a live-and-let-live kinda gal.

Joan

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Joan E.

Most certainly! I thought the same thing and Gill told me I could

*never* be as bad as her EMIL! lol J
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Joan E.

That's the ticket, I also will only listen if there is a dispute between them and never agree that yes, he/she is a beast etc etc because when it is all patched up the next thing is "But you don't really like X, you agreed he/she is a beast" so there is no winning for MILs. My parents were great inlaws too, for which we both were infinitely grateful, Davids parents on the other hand...

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lucretia borgia

And mine..... I was just batting the ball back into YOUR side of the court. LOL

Gillian

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kc5ten

And to remember that your DS is not always right and DIL is not always wrong.

I got caught in too many situations of the ilk that it was OK for him to spend $100 a month on the fad-du-jour, the real problem with our budget was that a couple times a year I spent $5 on floss.

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Karen C - California

I was SO looking forward to my son bringing home a bride (dd had already married a nice young man). Sadly, she decided before she even met us that she hated us. I don't know what her problem is, other than that she is apparently insanely jealous, but she does everything she can to keep ds away from us. I don't interfere. DS wanted to live here, but as soon as she had the ring on her finger she insisted they move to her hometown of Sacramento. If I want to talk to him, I e-mail him at his office. When we visited out there, we stayed in a hotel even though they have a big house, and only saw the babies when ds was not at work.

I guess I am an emil.

Olwyn Mary in New Orleans

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Olwyn Mary

EMIL is in the attitude. As they taught us about analyzing court cases, if the parties were switched around, would you agree that the situation is fair?

If all the decisions you described had been your son's, you'd be just as peeved at being denied access to the grandbabies. Thus, you're not an EMIL.

OTOH, if our situation had been turned around, my EMIL would've been highly offended that I spent it faster than we earned it and her poor henpecked son was lucky to get $5 a couple times a year to spend on himself. All our financial problems were because I occasionally spent a little money (scrounged out of my birthday and Christmas checks from my granny) on floss, and not because he regularly spent huge amounts of money we didn't have.

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lucretia borgia

Get those neurons firing, Ms Borgia -- if one's DIL is very close to her mother who isn't working and somewhat close to her father's wife who is off for the summer and is a little pushy, then grammy #3 isn't asked to do much.

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anne

Sounds like you've BTDT, Anne.

Olwyn Mary in New Orleans

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