But there again, that hardly makes an EMIL - it makes a thoughtless DIL. Certainly not fair, happily I had two daughters as well as a son and my daughters had in one case inlaws who live in Montreal and in the other a MIL who was not competing.
My DIL had her mother babysitting my younger granddaughter while she worked but I really did not mind as I was still working and very busy anyway.
Guess I was lucky.
Don't forget too, the day does come when said grandchildren are flying on their own and they visit according to what they want to do. So there is hope lol