Keep a Good thought, Please

Sep 11, 2005 64 Replies

I've never done this before, but I have seen what these good thoughts accomplish.



My 22 year old DD called me hysterical on Friday as I was packing for a trip. Her annual Pap test came back "abnormal" and she is to have a Coloscopy this Wednesday.



I reassured her that it was most likely nothing at all (and in my head I KNOW that to be fact), but as her dad and I have both survived cancer (colon & ovarian, respectively) it is still scary.



While I never had an abnormal Pap, it appears that every friend I spoke with over the weekend has endured this.



So, keep a good thought for her. And I'll tell you something: being told that you have cancer is NOTHING, NOTHING like being told something is wrong with your child. A whole bunch of you already know this. It felt like a bucket of ice cold water got dumped on me. Even though I know that she is most likely fine.



Thanks, Friends. And please know that in the greater scheme of things going on, I realize this is a pitiful request.



Cindy


Hardly a pitiful request Cindy! I would be silently terrified if it was my daughter!

Hugs and prayers for you AND DD Tina

Over the years (approx 30), I've had many abnormal Paps. Next time they would test it would be ok. In the past few years, I kept having abnormals, then they found a polyp, removed it - thought tests would say ok after that. Pap in 2004 was abnormal, 2005 test was normal. Some of us just seem to keep having abnormal test results that mean nothing. I don't even worry about it any more - just wait for the next one.

Will be keeping good thoughts here that it was just a blip in the test. Best wishes, Carey in MA

Cindy, prayres and good thoughts that all is well with your DD's testing.

I've had a couple of abnormal Pap tests in my life...they ended up doing them again and they came back negative..... Just recently had an abnormal mamo result - what a fright. They kept me for almost three hours at the clinic while they were doing additional testing...that same afternoon I had two more mamos and two ultrasounds on the same breast!!! Talk about scared.. determined it was 'glandular' tissue and not cancer, but want me to have another in 6 months. When I got back to my car, I was shaking...and I cried my eyes out from the fear and relief. =20

-Irene

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Good and positive thoughts on their way, Cindy.

Good thoughts and prayers headed your way. I was her age, and had just had a child when I had 2 that came back abnormal. The 3rd was fine, and I had them every 6 months for about 2 years after that just to be sure. I know it is scarey any time, but especially when it is one of your children.

Sherry Starr

Hugs and prayers coming your way.

Betty in WI

I too am among the ranks to survive culposcopy and biopsy and mine came back as unremarkable, or whatever lingo human doctors use to mean that things are okay. I was scared too and the culposcopy is no fun but it beats the alternative. Let her know I'm (virtually) holding her hand as some good friends did for me and hoping for the best. It does take you by surprise when the pap results come back abnormal but pretty much every time they do follow up it seems there is nothing to worry about. I'm betting on that result. Hugs for DD and yourself,

DItto for me..BTDT. For me, I received a call from Mother saying my doc had called but they wouldn't say why. NOw, bear in mind that I had already relocated to Panama at this time - called doc and couldn't believe what they said. DIdn't say "abnormal PAP" said, "we think you have cervical cancer....and the timing was right as DH and I were gearing up to try being parents! Had a culposcopy done at a military hospital (trust me, it wasn't a big deal - I read a book of Authurian Legends while going through it....doc and nurses were hard pressed not to laugh because i was so relaxed). They wanted more tests, so back I went to the states and a doc that I had used while living in another part of MD...had a LEEP conectomy done....that one was a little scary, simply because they hadn't explained it to me, but even then, I was talking to DH (he was in the room with me, hol,ding my hand and making up little silly songs to distract me). Over in a matter of minutes, and everything has been normal since then. Just don't let her overdo it after her testing - I wasn't supposed to walk after the LEZEP, but I went shopping for 6 hours the following day with no ill effects.

Larisa, say> I too am among the ranks to survive culposcopy and biopsy and mine came back

pitiful? hardly, good grief. we are not meant to outlive our kids, Cindy. i'd feel the same way if it were my dd. hang in there, i'm sure all will be fine. big hugz and good vibes on the way for all of you. jeanne

An abnormal Pap (we call them smear tests here in the UK, think I prefer your word!!) often just means that whoever took it just didn't get enough of a sample for them to test properly - 999 times out of 1000 there is absolutely nothing wrong at all.

I'm hoping and praying that this will happen in your daughters case - please let us know!

Suzie B

Thanks, Donna, that helps/

Cindy

I will be sure to let you all know, Suzie and thank you.

Cindy

Oh, Irene! I'm sure that WAS scary.

Thanks for the good thoughts.

Cindy

Thank you ! That helps.

Cindy

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