OT - Happy Dancing Cause We're Done

Leaping around the room with happiness for you Mika. Such a load off your shoulders! We went through pretty much the same thing. My DIL actually phoned her father the week she turned 18 and said if we didn't keep sending CS that they'd starve. Turns out her mother had been paying her $100 a week pocket money for a couple of years and that it would have to stop when the CS did. Luckily age and experience have led to a vast improvement in the girl and she has turned out quite nicely. Hope some of that CS money will go to a good quilting cause! Fay In sunny warm Broadford Australia

Why on earth were they taking it out of his paycheck?? Here in Kansas, you just send the check to the court (or a representative thereof) and they send it on to the recipient. And you aren't obligated to continue to pay if the child goes to college?

Cindy

My DD is considering the prospect of marriage to a young man who has a small son. I told DD that I don't ever, ever, EVER want to hear a complaint about child support. It is his obligation and if DD marries him it will be their responsibility to help provide for that child. She knows going into the relationship that the situation is what it is and no fair crying foul if or when she decides to have other children.

Not jumping on you, Mika, I'm just sayin.

Cindy

LOL isn't it funny how kids try to manipulate parents. I can certainly relate to what you're saying. I wish I could say that age and experience have led to vast improvements in these two girls but it seems they are in a downward spiral and there's nothing we can do to help. Their mother did a real number on them and causes a lot of damage to their relationship with DH. Maybe someday it will all work out though.

Hugs, Mika

Because the ex is a greedy b*tch and wanted to cause trouble for DH in anyway she could. She owed him money for her share of airplane tickets for the girls visitation and she refused to pay it so he held it out of the child support. She didn't like that so the last time they went to court she got a wage garnishment against him. This all took place in 2002 and 2003. DH hasn't seen the 18 y/o since August 2003 and has only seen the 21 y/o once since then. The only way you're obligated to pay if the child goes to college is if it's written into the divorce decree that way and it wasn't written into DH's orders. Otherwise it stops when the youngest child turns

18 depending on which state you live in. In Iowa it's 18 and since that is where the last modification took place they have jurisdiction even though the ex moved to NE. Besides neither of the girls are going to college so it would have stopped anyway.

Hugs, Mika

Oh I understand Cindy. I knew going into it that he had a responsibility to his kids. I had no problem with that. In fact I have raised his oldest daughter since she was 6 years old (she is now 23) and he adopted my boys. I am very proud of the fact that he was so willing to step up and support his girls. What I didn't expect was for his ex to be so greedy and such a witch about turning the girls against him and trying to keep them from him especially since he was such a good father. My/Our happiness at being done with the CS has absolutely nothing to with the girls but has everything to do with being done with the ex.

On the other hand, the three kids that we raised togehter, his oldest daughter and my two boys, had to do without a lot because of those two girls. So after 17 years of never missing a child support payment I think we're pretty much entitled to be happy about being done with it. We can do some things for the other 3 kids now that we were'nt about to do while we were paying CS.

I have told all 3 of my kids that if they ever even consider marrying a person who has a child they had better be prepared for years of CS payments and weekend visitation and possibly a jealous ex who likes to interfere in your lives. It's all part of the package.

Ok I didn't mean to get carried away here. LOL.

Hugs, Mika