This is another "should I have done what I did" post even though I know what I did was right.
My 87 year old aunt (who's always been a second mother to me) has severe dementia (sp) and is now in a care center. My aunt choose her neice, my cousin, and her husband to be her primary caretaker/guardian/will/ executor of estate. During the time my aunt was home, my cousin handled every thing financial and I handled all the outdoor yard mowing, gardening etc. Then I discovered something.
I had never checked on my aunt's financial affairs as it was in the hands of my cousin and I would never have thought that she would be dishonest in any way. But I was an accountant for 10 years and a quick look at my aunt's checking book and savings, well, things did not add up. I don't know how much was "taken" but I'm sure it's in the 1000's of dollars category.
During this same time frame, my cousin and her husband bought a new travel travel, a new huge doublecabbed truck and then most recently a new car. (not as in brand new but close.) Now they both are retired and also have house payments.
It was easy to figure out what was going on but to be sure, I thought I'd do the right thing and have my aunt's financial situation be handled by those payed to do just that: Adult Protective Services and the local police department.
This doesn't look like it's going to turn out good and I am being hated for doing what I did.
I would have done the same thing for anyone.....no one has the right to abuse our elders or our children. But I'm being told I should have just left it alone because my aunt still has enough money to take care of her in the care center and so I should have done nothing. Done nothing?
My aunt trusted her neice! It's not fun being hated but I know I did the right thing. Right? What would you do if you found out a loved one was being mistreated by someone else in the family?
Sorry this is so long. Hope somebody still reads my posts.... I know I have been black-balled by some.
Donna in WA