You are so right, Julia. Christening gowns should be shared and passed down. No. I didn't make another one for her. Her 'entitled' attitude just didn't motivate me. Polly
"Julia in MN" Did you make the second one? Something like that sounds like an heirloom
I, too, am reminded me of the absolutely wonderful notes I received from members of this group - both via postings here, private emails, and cards and letters - when my mom passed away a few years back.
No I didn't get a hug quilt then - it never even occurred to me that I would (even though I had participated in a few before and a few since) and I never felt oversighted by not getting one because all of those wonderful emails, notes and cards from RCTQ friends were HUGs enough at a time when I REALLY needed them!
"For it is in giving that we receive." (Prayer of St. Francis.)
-Irene
Certainly you are within your rights to air your opinions. But this very topic has been aired here many times over the years....just check the archives. When you air something like this you are certainly going to get responses.
I participate in Hugs when I can, which has not been much lately due to life issues. However, I share the joy of those receiving one, and I always send out prayers and healing thoughts to those who ask. The HUGS are what they are - an amazing thing especially given this is a Usenet group and not a quilting guild!
Feeling as though you are entitled to one is only going to make you feel worse when you don't receive it.
Instead of feeling bad about something you have no control over, why not turn it around into something you DO have control over -- maybe make a block for someone else, or start a goup of quilters in your area to make HUGS for local people. "For it is in giving that we receive."
-Irene
I really don't think Megan felt "entitled", and I think your response is a little harsh. Yes, this has been discussed before. It seems as if things like this come up after there have been quite a few requests for quilts that are requested for people not remotely connected to RCTQ, except for the person doing the requesting. I know of a few that have quit the group when these requests became more and more ridiculous (in some opinions). Apparently we need to clear the air, so to speak, occasionally. As with anything in life there are givers and there are takers. Plus some of us don't chose to tell the whole world our feelings. In that case, some don't expect anything and some wonder why they don't get the response others get. As I said in a previous post---the squeaky wheel gets the grease. Or the soap operas, as some post. Gen
I tend to agree with you Irene. I participate in the hug projects because it makes me feel good to do so.
Michelle in NV
Howdy!
LOL.
Love you, Gen.
R/S - leaving all the posts below p.s. (((((Pig)))))
That's the way I feel too and, like someone said, it's your choice whether you want to participate in a HUG quilt or not. I asked for blocks a while back for a very ill friend of mine and I received so many beautiful ones - it was such a joy putting that quilt together. Whenever I see her, somehow that HUG quilt comes up and she gets misty- eyed each and every time - she is just blown away that so many strangers cared enough to do such a thing. We all make choices and mine certainly will be to participate in a HUG quilt whenever I can. Giving really is better than receiving at times.
Sharon (N.B.)
Yes, Block the Sender is a friend I sometimes visit also. Some times I prefer to visit Ignore this Conversation. Life is short .... I prefer to avoid stress in my hobby! But I enjoy most of the posters here! Hugs all around, ;) PAT
I've been privileged to have been hugged by Megan -- metaphorically and truly -- as the lucky recipient of a lot of the stash that she decided she could live without. (Was that really two years ago now?!)
I've been hugged, too, with a quilt made by a subgroup of RCTQers (and former RCTQers) the year that my parents died. Not only is it a special quilt, it is also a lovely one, and I am most grateful. In return, and to pay it forward, I have coordinated several hug quilts-- any part from designing to setting blocks to quilting and binding.
Making a quilt for the neighbor's brother-in-law's catsitter, no matter how unfortunate that person's circumstances, seems to me to be more of a charity quilt than a hug. Maybe that's just my own definition of a charity quilt as opposed to a hug quilt. I make many of the latter (the HeartStrings Quilt Project is all about that --
While on the topic, I'm curious to know why many write "HUG" in capital letters. To me that indicates an acronym, as though it's short for "how utterly gracious," or "heavenly unciform gardenias."
Nann > Hug quilts.
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