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Wedding quilt fabric ready but now no wedding

Ok, I spent a lot of money on really nice fabric for a wedding quilt chosen especially for my niece who was supposed to get married in mid-November, but now the wedding has been called off by the groom. There are alot of strong emotions running rampant right now, especially with my sister and niece and understandably so. This would be have been a huge wedding with 6 bridesmaids, two junior bridesmaids and 2 flower girls. Black tie and all that. I don't know how much they can recoup, but I think at this point they just want to get through the emotion of it all.

But, my question is, should I still make the quilt? The colors were chosen to match her wedding colors but they will match her home decor as well. I thought of several options. One, make it for her birthday next year - September. Make it and hold onto it for a while to see if she is lucky enough to meet someone else. Make it and hold it for her next major birthday. I don't think she knows I was making a quilt and I don't think my sister would have told her, but I don't want to give it to her so close to when her wedding would have been or she may suspect it was supposed to be a wedding gift. There is no question that I will still make the quilt for her, it's just a question of the best time.

Any suggestions?

AliceW in NJ

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alice-wurpel
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I say make it now and when the right time to give it comes, you will know.

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maryd

I'd make that quilt right now and give it to her as soon as I could. I'm betting she really needs a hug. Polly

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Polly Esther

Thanks Polly. She is in really bad shape right now. I'm sure it's better that it ended BEFORE the wedding, but it's hurting nonetheless.

AliceW

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alice-wurpel

I've been thinking about this for a while, Alice. It is indeed a difficult situation. If some of the fabrics were such that could be used in another quilt entirely - for someone else perhaps, could you introduce a couple of colours that would make it suitable for a Christmas quilt? dark green, or gold/silver perhaps - one of those frosty ones that Polly loves might be great. If you gave it to her for Christmas, you could say that it was to 'cheer her up as it would be a disappointing Christmas'. With a couple of Christmas fabrics, she wouldn't associate it with the wedding upset. . In message , alice-wurpel writes

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Patti

Thanks for the great suggestion Patti. The fabric colors are black, ivory and gold and I found a wonderful asian flavored main fabric that has all three colors. This will match her house colors as well and I was going to use the Warm Wishes pattern. My sister saw the fabrics and approved whole heartedly and trust me, she's not easy to please. So I think I will move forward with making the quilt and use Polly's suggestion of giving it to her as her own "hug" quilt. I won't assign it to a particular occasion and will send it to her when she would least expect a gift just to let her know that she is loved.

It's going to be a tough quilt to make - emotionally. But I will make it with love and "warm wishes" for her - and my sister. This really broke her heart since this is her only daughter and was so looking forward to seeing her married. She's already seen her in the wedding gown which makes it even more painful.

AliceW

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alice-wurpel

Here's what I do in situations like that, and often with many things I make. Make the quilt for your niece, then let the quilt tell you when it is to be given. I can't be given until it is finished, so finish it asap, and then let the quilt decide. : )

Karen, Queen of Squishies

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Karen, Queen of Squishies

Sound advice. My sister may be able to help me with the "right time" decision.

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alice-wurpel

Make the quilt for her Alice. The fabric is perfect for her and she probably can use the caring and love that you put into it.

This could be worse. My niece married a fellow that was a moron. She was advised by several of us to think twice but she 'loved' the guy. 4 years later (exactly on her anniversary) her divorce has come through. The guy was running around on her and refused to work. I sure hope she has learned a lesson. I just wonder what happened to the beautiful DWR quilt I gave her? It really is a big fat shame.

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Taria

I say make the quilt anyhow. Went through a similar issue myself a couple of years ago. Decided I was going to give ALL the siblings on both sides quilts for their 15th anniversaries. Mind you - no one has gotten them on time yet! Dear Sis was one of the first 2 on the list. Told her my plan and got 'oh - you don't need to do that'. Well, it was because unbeknowst to any of us the issues w/her husband were far worse than any of use knew. I was nearly finished with the quilt when she announced her separation and upcoming divorce. We decided to give her a surprise 40th party shortly thereafter. I thought my fingers would fall off, but got it done. She knew what the original intent was but was delighted to be 'hugged' with it for a different occassion. Your neice will be as well.

Kim in NJ

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AuntK

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