OT: I need some advice

Okay, first in my journey I hope will be Antartica. I'm applying for a temp job right now. That will get me closer to Africa, plus they will pay for me to be dropped off wherever I want. Plus, who can say they lived in Antartica. Right?

I will have lived in both the north and south poles if that job works out. How cool would that be?

But... what about Trinkett?

You have not been everywhere in the USA, Starlia! You have not been to see me. waaaaaaaa

I wish I had some advice for you but alas and alack I don't. I wish you much luck in your journey where ever it leads you, half the fun of it is in the planning. Don't forget your backpack and your bedroll and a journal. Maybe you could write a woman's travel guide while you're on the road!

That's the only thing that has kept me home for so long. Maybe if I could do it in six months at a time trips. We'll have to see if Antarctica works out first. That will be six months away, but daddy can always send me videos of her so I won't be so alone.

Margie - A travel journal sounds good. I could already write lots, but I'm not so sure if a lot of women would take as many risks.

DH is always lecturing me about Peru, et al because they harass, maim, or kill Americans. I could care less if most countries despise Americans. It's who I am and I can't change that. I'm not going to let fear stop me from anything. I'm trained in martial arts and I know how to defend myself against almost anything except a bullet in my path. The Army helped with that as well.

One of my favorite countries to visit is Mexico. I love the culture, the food, and it's very inexpensive. San Miguel de Alende is the best place to visit for artists. They speak English, Spanish, and German in the village and it's an artists haven. If anyone ever wants to go where it's 70 degrees year round, super cheap (under $10 to eat and stay a day), and is artist friendly then you must put it on your travel destinations. I don't recommend going through Mexico City though. It's too rough and you want to be sure to get there in one piece. (Hey I didn't say I wasn't cautious.) Oh, and the silver mines are down the road. Some gorgeous stuff for next to nothing.

Anyhow, that the end of my travels for the day. Maybe I will go to Mexico for a week or so just to get the travel bug out of my system. No, more than a week since I want to go to the beach as well. Anyhow, have bus ticket will travel...in style and cheap.

Well, sounds like you're having some sort of personal, inner turmoil to be thinking of taking off for a long length of time, all alone like that. Sounds like something a single person might do. A young single person actually. My question is this. If you needed to "find yourself", why didn't you do that before you made the commitment of marriage? And, why not invite hubby to go along instead of going off alone? Afterall, when you make a decision to go somewhere for a long period of time and you have a family (husband), it only seems right not to leave him behind. He's part of your life. It doesn't seem right to just cast him aside and run.

What are you running from? What are you hoping to find? If being "tied down" bothers you, why are you married? These are all questions you should ask yourself and REALLY give a lot of thought. It might help to close your eyes and picture yourself as the person being left behind. What if the shoe were on the other foot? What if your husband wanted to leave you for 2 years to go see other countries, meet new people, experience other cultures, (all of this without you of course)? Wouldn't you feel left out and totally abandoned? Not to mention, unimportant. I'm not saying all of your idea's don't sound like fun.. they do! I'm just saying that it looks like you've already made commitments in your life and shouldn't toss those commitments aside so easily. Remember, you can "find yourself" in a crowd of people.

Just my 2 cents......

Jocelyn

Starlia -- I have no idea, but I would add Rome to your itinerary. That is what I dream of after I conquer California.

Becki "In between the moon and you, the angels have a better view of the crumbling difference between wrong and right." -- Counting Crows

Honey if your bus ticket brings you here, the beach is one hour away, you can see the mountains from both my front and back yard (since I live in them) and the rent is....nothing, to you.

Becki "In between the moon and you, the angels have a better view of the crumbling difference between wrong and right." -- Counting Crows

You could also take up what was offered to me -- do the RCB circuit, visiting some people from here. Soak up their jewelry skills and the local color, work for a while if you must, and move on.

Becki "In between the moon and you, the angels have a better view of the crumbling difference between wrong and right." -- Counting Crows

California sounds so nice, especially this time of year. I just may take you up on it. :-)

On Mon, 23 Feb 2004 16:12:11 -0500, BeckiBead wrote (in message ):

There's a bus station up the street from me, too. We don't have Trinkett, but we have Sophie the Wonder Dog, and as with Becki's place, the price is right.

You could probably satisfy your wanderlust by visiting all of us Beady folk. It would be cheap, fun, and quite the experience.

Kathy N-V

Hi Jocelyn,

My dear hubby new me getting into all this. He is not an adventurous person and he knew how I want roots, but I also like a change of pace. Traveling is not his cup of tea and he would never go. It's okay with us both if I leave for a while. Two years without Trinkett might kill me so I may just go off to six months at a time. Maybe travel six months come home for a year and a half and off again.

I never wanted to be married again to tell the truth. He just wouldn't give up on me. Then after talking he knew what he was getting into. My grandparents gave him the ole speech of you'll never get to her settle down. They were mistaken a little. I've been more at peace living with my darling beside growing up with grandparents in my home town.

I just want to experience life before I'm retirement age. I don't think this is wrong or selfish in my own way. He wants to stay here, but he also doesn't want to hold me back. If I wait for that day when Trinkett isn't an issue, well I don't want to even think about it.

Antarctica sounds like a good place to start. We'll have to see how that works out. In the meantime I think I'll be heading to Mexico for a week or so. I may rent a house in San Miguel so if anyone wants to come it will be fairly inexpensive. The house I'm renting comes with maid and cook for $250 a week. I can't resist eating on the square for about 90 cents a meal though. Yummy!

Then there is the art community and college....

Life is good.

True, so very true. Thank you all for the invites. I might have to take you up on it too. I don't mind taking the bus since I don't like to drive that much. Plus the bus is very cheap.

Of course Rome, Venice, Palau, Sidney, and the list goes on. If I can work my way to most of my destinations it would rock. I don't want DH worrying about money and I wouldn't take money from home for anything.

It has been very wet and it is a bit of a mudhole in my yard. But the house is dry and the beach is there, rainy or not, and it is stunning. It is not as warm as usual right now (projected to be just a bit below 60 all week, in the high 50's). However, I moved here in -9 degree weather. I have NO complaints.

Becki "In between the moon and you, the angels have a better view of the crumbling difference between wrong and right." -- Counting Crows

I concur!

I'm a good enough cook (well, a little better than that) and I could use some help turning up the garden this spring. And, and, I don't have glass but I do have polymer clay that we could have fun with. Come on over. :=)

Kathy had me 1/2 convinced to buy a trailer and bead-hop from RCBer to RCBer. It sounds like fun (if I wasn't such a homebody at heart).

Becki "In between the moon and you, the angels have a better view of the crumbling difference between wrong and right." -- Counting Crows

got a bus stop right down the road, also. and kathy and i are within 30 minutes or so of each other. sold the nj house, and have just a 1br condo, and no dog, but the couch is comfy.

You are right about the bus. I was going to bus my current houseguest to LA to visit relatives. He missed the bus (it is 1-1/2 hours away and we just barely missed it) and the next one wasn't for six hours, so I drove him to LA. It would have been MUCH cheaper to bus him there, Starlia. With the price of gas the way it is, both busing and flying are cheaper right now.

Becki "In between the moon and you, the angels have a better view of the crumbling difference between wrong and right." -- Counting Crows