One can't learn/force an emotion-- and some can't "feel" them. One can learn behaviors, though-- to stop, think, and then respond to whatever, rather than just reacting to it. Kaytee "Simplexities" on
One can't learn/force an emotion-- and some can't "feel" them. One can learn behaviors, though-- to stop, think, and then respond to whatever, rather than just reacting to it. Kaytee "Simplexities" on
Good point! And sometimes, thru learning to act as though one feels a certain way, the feeling can be sparked as well -- but that's not something to be counted on. However, as love is based in respect, that's an excellent place to start.
Conversely, one can exhibit behaviors normally associated with "love" without actually feeling the emotion. This was a point of argument between me and a counselor, shortly after my mother died. I was trying to help my father deal with the adjustment (and seeing the counselor to help me deal with *him*!) out of a sense of duty, and she kept insisting that this meant that "deep down inside, you REALLY DO love him". Wrong. I know what I was feeling, and love had no part in it, and it *majorly* pissed me off that she kept insisting she knew what I felt better than I did.
Celine
A totally justified response, IMO.
Deirdre
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