Tyler's Hug

I think whoever is the host of the Hug sets the tone for that Hug. Sometimes - like the Tyler Hug - time is important and size of the block is important in order to meet deadlines. I would hate it if we get really rigid about size of block etc. We need to keep the focus on the INTENT and not make up a bunch of rigid "Thou shalt..." rules. Rules are discriminatory when they get to the point they exclude someone. Dont' worry Susan - you are the host and you can decide to do this quilt anyway you want to. Please don't apologize to anyone. You have nothing to apologize for. Anyone doesn't want to do it your way doesn't have to participate and they sure don't have the right to judge you or how you do this Hug. Tyler is going to love it because someone gave their valuable time and energy to make him feel better. He's not going to look at whether the colors match or the at the size of the blocks. He will feel the love you - and all who sent blocks - put into the making of this quilt. He will recognize the INTENT - and that is all that really matters - isn't it?

Very nice, thanks for showing us!

Karen, Queen of Squishies

I've made blocks for several hugs and never sent a 6 inch block. Always 12 inch.

So do I most of the time. Helps get it done quicker I reckon.

BAH. Someone is being immature. Why should they object? They don't have to read it.

If someone would rather not be thanked publicly, she/he can simply enclose a note to that effect with their block. If someone who didn't send a block doesn't want to see the thanks, that's their problem, not yours.

I agree Black Rose. We can't control another persons feelings. That person is in charge of those feelings themselves. If they don't want to feel guilty then don't. There have been many many posts about how this is all voluntary and no one is compelled to participate. Any guilty feelings are that of the owner and not induced by the host of this hug or any one participating in the hug.

Sorry - I'm one who feels uncomfortable being thanked publically for doing a hug, so I will make a point of asking not to be named in future. I don't mind a picture, in fact pictures are interesting, its just my name appearing on a list that I am unhappy with.

It has nothing to do with guilt at all - we all have times when we are unable to participate for whatever reason, and I have already said that I am unable to do a block for Tyler due mainly to the distance I am away, the earlier than usual closing date and recent delays in postal services. Regret but not guilt.

Being publicly thanked as a 'hug giver' would make me want to crawl under the carpet in embarrassment. Perhaps this is a cultural thing, I don't know, but for me it just doesn't feel right. I just prefer to give in a private way.

I do like to know that a hug has arrived, and I always send an e-mail when I post one so that the 'gatherer' knows its on its way, so letting me know it has arrived is easy. Incidently the 'instructions' do ask for an e-mail addy on the card enclosed with the hug, for this purpose.

Sorry if this offends anyone, but that's me.

-- Sally at the Seaside~~~~~~~

OOPS! I'd made the assumption that someone complained who didn't make a block. It's a whole different story if someone doesn't want to be thanked publicly. I'm so sorry!