My sister had one of those----I DID design several paper things for her to punch through, as I didn't like THEIR pictures much.... Sarajane
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I've made a few things specifically for wearing myself. But not many.
My wardrobe just isn't all that jewelry-friendly. And I don't really have a jewelry-wearing habit.
Strange, huh? I love to make it, and consider how it is going to look on other people, but hardly ever wear it.
Deirdre
I can see a production number, a la Chorus Line, in the making...
Deirdre
Thank you, I'm honored.
And I agree that 'bad' experiences can be transformed, if we attend to them and process them in fruitful ways. It's sometimes a long process, but it is entirely possible to do.
Deirdre
Now this is a wish I could sign on for...
Deirdre
My hand is down. Just sorry you went through it. I got that parental food-nazi treatment too. My mother even put me on a 30-day fast when I was 11. She didn't even notice that I started passing out at about Day-20.
But god-forbid I should start to resemble my fat father, whom she very vocally despised. I was in my 20s before I wised up and said "I have half my genes from him. If I look like him, if my metabolism isn't like yours, letting me eat 1-lb. chocolate bars at a sitting without gaining an ounce, is it my fault for being born with him for a 50% gene-donor, or yours for *choosing* the overstuffed turkey in the first place?"
But growing up fat is an experience I don't reject, in that it gave me a direct taste of what it is like to be judged on something other than 'the content of my character', and made me sensitive to the ways others were devalued or excluded on spurious grounds, too. It made the reality of knee-jerk discrimination vivid and immediate, and had a lasting effect on my willingness to value people who weren't always valued by others.
Deirdre
Absolutely. Same with growing up "too thin". I suspect it's quite similar for anyone who grows up with an issue that puts them visibly outside the "norm" in some way.
Laura
I'd be the first to agree that -yes-, there is a Reality out there. Just that we can't separate what is "in here" (our own perceptual tool kit) from our *experience* of it.
And that the toolkit can change the experience so nobody's is going to exactly match anyone else's.
How about cross-species experience. Is the forest clearing the same experience for you, and for a moose? What does his hearing pick up that yours doesn't? How different is what each of you can smell? How is your vision unlike hers? What does the clearing look like with eyes at a higher or lower perspective, and placed in either 'predator' or 'prey' position on your respective heads?
Deirdre
The real question (to me) is, why do some people find it necessary to put down what they don't prefer? What's wrong with a compliment that *doesn't* have a putdown attached to it?
Personal taste is fine. I think skinny, clean-shaven guys with long hair and glasses are sexy as hell. But when I say that, I don't make disparaging comments about "face fur" or "military wannabes", even though (by and large) beards and buzz-cuts are turnoffs for me.
It's all about the way the compliment is presented. If a guy can't say he likes the way *I* look without putting down other women, I have to wonder what he's saying about me behind my back.
Celine
Teal and aqua both cover a wide range of colors. Just look at natural turquoise; some of it is very much to the "blue" side, some is far more "greenish". And it's really hard to mix the two!
Celine
Frequently, yes. But I've also known people who reacted to being "outcast" by despreately searching for someone *they* could treat the way others were treating them. That's really sad.
Celine
Yeah. Makes me wish for a personal seamstress. Then I could choose fabrics, styles and lengths for myself.
Any of you Portland types know someone who sews who'd be willing to swap sewing for custom jewelry?
Deirdre
I love it. That's a wonderfully non-conformist take on the whole gestalt of Prom Night.
Deirdre
Now *that's* the reality about Real Women.
Deirdre
vj found this in rec.crafts.beads, from "Diana Curtis" :
]WHO *world health organization recomends not weaning until baby is at least ]2 years old. I like them. :-)
exactly. and goat's milk is MUCH better for them than cow's milk.
[hiding from the Dairy Association]----------- @vicki [SnuggleWench] (Books)
vj found this in rec.crafts.beads, from Deirdre S. :
]We're on the same wavelength here...
and it gets more confuzzling by the moment!
----------- @vicki [SnuggleWench] (Books)
vj found this in rec.crafts.beads, from "laura" :
]I was once denied health insurance because my weight fell short of the ]acceptable profile.
my niece auditioned for the SF Ballet Company when she was in high school. they were afraid to hire her because they were convinced she "MIGHT" be anorexic. she isn't. she IS and extremely talented, hard-working ballerina. their loss. she now flies all over Europe and the US - auditioning and dancing.
----------- @vicki [SnuggleWench] (Books)
vj found this in rec.crafts.beads, from "Karen_AZ" :
]I'll blushingly admit that for years I had a thing for blond, ]slightly scruffy, surfer-types.
**grin** don't we all?----------- @vicki [SnuggleWench] (Books)
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