It wouldn't be a mess if Caryn hadn't interjected herself into the conversation with nothing positive to say. Or had Victoria stayed out since she had already made it clear that she wanted nothing whatsoever to do with the project - and she had made that decision months ago with great fanfare.
Of course I'm pleased that she started the idea. I give her credit for that and wish she had continued. Nobody "took over". Each had their duties to perform. Her anger multiplied when the project didn't get done as soon as she thought it should. She was given the angel to stitch on and sat on it for several months without doing a thing. It then went on to someone else who volunteered.
Tia Mary kept track of the stitchers and where things were in the process. Bless her for taking on responsibilities that no one else volunteered to do. Responsibilities that were needed to see to the project's conclusion. Victoria could have picked up that slack but didn't. I kept up the website but certainly never tried to take control. I voiced my opinion when questions and decisions were being made. But it was just one opinion of many, in a democratic process where we all got together and came up with solutions everyone could live with.
As someone mentioned to me, sometimes not doing something immediately is just as meaningful. It means you aren't forgotten, even though time has passed.
This was a group project done with a great deal of enthusiasm and love. Victoria asked if anyone was interested. The response was gratifying to say the least. If you haven't followed the entire process, then you can't realize that.
I'm just so very sorry that two people are making it difficult for the rest of us to enjoy the project more fully. It amazes me that in spite of it all, those involved are still forging ahead and trying hard to ignore the interference.
Dianne